Why Me??BFP then misscarriage?

Question

as some of you may know i got my BFO on monday. but sadly had a misscarriage on friday. how do you cope? i feel empty. please help. what helped you? this is the 2nd early misscarriage i have had. both less than 5 weeks. Does being overweight make you more prone to misscarriages?

thankyou in advance for your answers.

Answer 1

copeing is hard i speak from experience, but i found that it made it just a little easier to remember my baby would come for me when it was ready and it was not my fault. My biggest hump to get over was the thought it was my fault. just know it is not your fault and you will feel better soon. healing comes in time. so for now meditate, take warm bathes, listen to some peacefull music, and think about serenity.think about when you want to try again, talk to your doctor about causes and things to prevent another one next time. Buy all the what to expect when your expecting books they have all sorts of helpful hints about minimizing chance of miscarriage.

oh and by the way being over weight makes it a little less easy to conceive but once you have your weight will not effect your pregnancy, besides you should be careful how much weight you gain.

hope i helped

Answer 2

A miscarriage is very common.  1 in 4 pregnancies will end in miscarriage.  I am an overweight woman and I had a m/c with my 1st pregnancy at 9 weeks and then another m/c with my 2nd pregnancy at 10 weeks.  Thankfully 3rd time lucky I had a healthy pregnancy and I now have a beautiful almost 5 month old baby girl.  Sorry for your loss but hang in there and it will happen for you.

Answer 3

God Bless Pray Pray Pray

and never for get about your baby because she will be your angle forever do good things and when you have your next baby do go by she/or he don't forget the past remember it and thank God for his many Lessons

Answer 4

you need to take this test called RPL ask your doctor about it and then you might need to take something I forget how to spell it... progesterone?  its to keep you pregnant

Dont feel alone I lost my daughter at 19 weeks due to a blood clot in her cord...

GL

email if you need help...

Answer 5

i am so sorry for your losses

give yourself time to recover physically although you'll never really recover mentally.

take it easy and maybe try to loose sum weight if that's what you think but sometimes weight doesn't stop you from conceiving please be patient and good luck.xxxxxxxxx

Answer 6

Its always very sad when this happens - you will get over it - just think that there was something wrong and that there was nothing you did or could have done to prevented it :)

Maybe start taking pregnancy vitamins, these are made to help during conception and pregnancy - at least you will know that all the correct nutrients are getting to the baby :)  I know that being over weight could make it more difficult to conceive I've never heard that it would mean you are more prone to mis-carridges :)

Answer 7

I'm so sorry you had another miscarriage, but 5 weeks is really early, many pregnancies (as many as 1 in 4) end in early miscarriage before the woman even knows she is pregnant often.

Its only the advent of early pregnancy testing kits that makes women aware they are pregnant, in the "old days" you just waited for your period to come and in your case it would be a slightly late period that's all, you would never know you were even pregnant.  

Being overweight has nothing to do with miscarriage, I know grossly obese people who have perfectly normal pregnancies. Just try to eat healthy, exercise in moderation and don't get stressed. Hopefully next time things will turn out OK for you.

I had a miscarriage many years ago at 16 weeks, its hard to cope however early or late it happens but you will get over it in time. Grieve for the baby you've lost but look to the future.

Answer 8

hi hun so sorry to hear about that i also miscarried in april at 10 weeks i don't think there is a way to cope we just have to knowing our little angels were to special for this world

what has really helpedd me hun is

gone too soon you can make your baby a page ,light candles,leave messages,add music its really helped me as its my way of feeling closer to my angel have a look see what you think again really sorry take carexx

Answer 9

im very sorry to hear about your loss..i too just went through a miscarriage actually i still am i feel that maybe talking to someone if you have someone to talk to is very good im young and i didnt even know i was pregnant or that i was having a miscarriage and it scared the h**l out of me..just know that its not over for you, you have many other chances but i would maybe search the web and maybe consult a doctor as to why..were there any complications, with you or the baby or did it just happen?? again im so sorry and i wish you the best of luck

Answer 10

First of all, I am so sorry for you loss.  I have been there.  I had 3 losses before my daughter.  It is the worst feeling in the world.  You need to know that it is perfectly normal to grieve.  Take all the time you need.  Talk about your baby.  Name them if you want to.  I also suggest you do something to memorialize them.  I have a necklace with 3 circles intertwined to respresent my 3 babies that I lost.  

Have you talked to your doctor about doing some testing?  Some doctors won't even mention it until you have suffered 3 losses, but if you bring it up and ask, they should accomodate you.  There may be a very good medical reason while you are unable to carry a pregnancy.  A reason that can easily be treated.  Have you had any testing done?  Sometimes overweight women suffer from PCOS, which may contribute to some fertility issues.  Talk to your doctor about starting progesterone supplementation.  It can't hurt and if low progesterone was a factor in your losses, it may prevent the next one.  More than likely, the pregnancies were not genetically "normal" which as a "fluke" and hopefully, will never happen again,

Ultimately, after 3 losses, I carried my daughter (now 2 1/2) to 35 weeks and she was born healthy.  The things I did different with her than with the pregnancies I lost was taking a baby aspirin every day and going on progesterone supplments.  No one will ever convince me it didn't help.  I am pregnant again now and started the baby aspirin as soon as I found out.  I am now 24 weeks.

Again, I am very sorry for your loss.  Hoping for the best for you.