Why Would friends Do This? (Higher Education Q)?

Question

I am friends with 2 sisters over 20 years. When they got in accidents I would bring them home cooked meals for both send encouragement cards, and hear them out over the phone. One sister got a very high profile job, and won't even speak to me. The other sister talked on the phone for her while the other one mumbled some things to her.

She said she got my messages but wasn't sure if I had called because my voice sounded weird? And she deleted the message. Said that I had called another time offering to bring dinner and they asked me if my mother had called them which my mother has never called them. The sister told me in the last call: "Don't be like a stranger to us. we are such good friends. Give us a call." And I'm the one always calling or initiating.

Could it be that the sister who got a high profile job think that she is better than me now that she doesn't have to speak to me?

For her birthday, I offered to bring home cooking and a present ( left a message on phone) and she called me back and asked if I wanted to go out with them for dinner? I asked if she heard my message and she said: "yes." Five minutes later she calls me and says I can't go to dinner as they have plans? Your thoughts???

Answer 1

I'm not sure what this has to do with higher education, but...just explain that you're feeling pushed away and ask what's going on, without explaining your theory, and see what they have to say about it.  If you get a "What are you talking about?  Everything's fine," and the behavior doesn't improve, then you can start distancing.

Answer 2

It could be that she thinks she is better than you, she could have heard some gossip about something you supposedly said or did, or she could be annoyed with you for some reason.  It is hard to say.  It does sound, though, as if she is trying to avoid you for some reason.  I would back off a little and see if she responds by contacting you.  If she doesn't, it is sad, but maybe she just isn't a very good friend any more.