I am sorry for the long text, but please give me your advice.
A friend of mine and I were hanging out for a almost a year. The last time when we saw each other which was last week, we hugged and he said that he will call over the weekend, but he never did. I do like him and I told him that two months ago. He freaked out a little bit but we decided to stay friends and we continued to hang out. The last time I saw him I can tell that he is hiding things from me and I became very quiet. He asked me why and I told him that something was up with him and he denied it. It seemed like that he wanted to argue with me for something and I told him that it was a loosing battle fighting with him and I can tell that something was bothering him because I knew his character. He told me not to judge him. I told him that I was not juding him but I wanted to know what is going on. He changed the topic quickly to what I have been doing. I told him that I began playing tennis again and wanted to compete next year. He lashed out at me that I was making things up, that tennis was a stupid game and that he did not believe me. I invited him to come to one of my practices he said that he would not want to waste his time. I also invited him to come with some of my friends to the beach, he said he was busy when I knew he was not. I do care for him a lot and I want to help him out but he does not communicate with me and I know that he is lying about something. He has not called me for 5 days and that is not like him. He is cooky and arrogant at times and I told him that I would not tolerate it. But we are not dating and I feel that he is treating me like one of his conquests. I choose to be here for my friends and I do really care for them, but he does not even give me a chance to be a friend.
Bottom line is that I do care for him alot and I told him that he was a good person and that I have respect for him. He seemed to be concerned about money, so I did not mind picking up the check for dinner but then he told me that I was showing off again and I told him that money do not mean a thing. He did not like that.
What should I do? Why would he treat me this way? How can I get him to open up to me to see what is going on? I just want to be there for him and help him out, but he does not seem to care.
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