Why act this way?..so hurtful?

Question

I have been friends with this man for years.He wanted to take it further,but he is married so I didn't.I do love him and I told him that,but also that I could not settle for an affair.I have tried to be his friend &maintain a romantic distnce,but one night I asked him why he was ignoring me and he went beserk,saying I always blamed him.He would not talk to me for months.We were all out another night & he interupts me while I was talking to another friend abt a girl & he starts saying how she had a better body/***/better looking than me.As he left I asked him why he said such horrible things in front of our friends,as he knew that I loved him and he gave me an ultimatum to tell him I loved him once and for all in the cold light of day.I didn't because I was so hurt.Since then he ignored me,flirted with a woman I was insecure about in front of me and ignored me when I said hello,flirted with a really young girl in front of me and ignored me.He seems to swing between this and trying to be nice to me.I'm confused and want to sort it out.What is going on?

Answer 1

You made a mistake by getting too friendly with a married man. Besides that, he's a jerk. Let his wife deal with his idiosyncrasies. You don't need him. He wants you to leave him alone, and is being nasty to get rid of you.  

Answer 2

first of all, HE'S MARRIED and flirting with you and wanting you?  why would you want him?  he's already proven he has the morals of an alley cat.  and you want this?  you need to make better choices.  find your own man who has a clue what fidelity, vows and character are.

secondly, he's treating you this way because you hurt his little boy feelings and he's trying to hurt you back.  again, not mature at all.

honey, you need to seriously rethink this guy.

Answer 3

s***w HIM, HE'LL BE ALRIGHT. JUST IGNORE HIM, AND IF THAT DOESN'T WORK THEN ASK HIS WIFE TO TELL HIM TO LEAVE YOU ALONE. DON'T SAY ANOTHER WORD TO HIM, BECAUSE HE WAS RUDE AND DISRESPECTFUL TO YOU. HE'S NO FRIEND AND YOU WOULDN'T WANT HIM EVEN IF HE WASN'T MARRIED BECAUSE YOU NEED A MAN NOT A LITTLE BOY WHO THROWS A TEMPER TANTRUM, AND PLAYS ON YOUR INSECURITIES WHEN HE CAN'T HAVE HIS WAY!!

I HOPE THIS HELPS  

Answer 4

You love a married man?

Answer 5

He's crazy and I'm sure can never be faithful to anyone. cut it off and find a real love intrest

Answer 6

Wow all this and he's married. I can see why you so desperately want to keep him in your life. NOT! Just move on. If you would like some pay back, hook up with one of his friends. The guy sounds like an immature loser. Cheaters, in general, are not good people.

Answer 7

You say he's married.He will never be yours he's just playing mind-games.Find someone else and move on.You will never be happy with him.Because he will never commit to you.He has a wife remember!

Answer 8

He's married..let it go and move on to more important things. He sounds like a bit of a jerk.