Why adoption so under utilized?

Question

I wonder why so many couples often forget the adoption in the scheme of attempting to conceive. It is often seen as the last ditch effort on having a family.

Answer 1

Why doesn't everyone have oceanfront property?

Because it's rare.  There are VERY few babies to adopt, which is a good thing--more children are staying with their families, as intended.

Why can't people accept infertility and embrace their childlessness is what puzzles me!

Answer 2

HUH? People forget about adoption? Ohhhh no, no, no. They don't. The thousands of PAPs out there show that people are not forgetting about adoption at all.

Maybe some people just don't want to adopt! Kinda like how some people don't want a pet, or a car, or a credit card. Maybe, just maybe some people simply don't want to adopt... Who are you trying to recruit here?

Answer 3

No. People do think of adoption.

Government makes adoption not an option for many people!

Answer 4

I have a lot of issues with the ethics of adoption right now.  Knowing that I contributed to the exploitation of another family is too much to bear.  Maybe someday.

Answer 5

most people want to have a chid of their own blood something about having that experience of carrying the baby and seeing it for the first time is amazing so people will do anything to have their own baby

Answer 6

Because people have a primal urge to propagate their genes. That's a powerful force.

Answer 7

We (Adoptees) are last choice

Answer 8

I think the biggest concern is that there are so few newborns out there to adopt, and brand new babies are what people want.

Meanwhile, we have older children being shipped off from one foster home to another, most of whom eventually become self-destructive adults living off the system.

Answer 9

I think people are worried about the process and the cost. Legalities. Or just the fear of the unknown. It's a good question though.

Answer 10

Red tape

Answer 11

I totally agree. One couple I knew compared adoption to buying used cars or garage sale shopping. I think that its horrible that people would rather spend thousands of dollars on new techniques that might work rather than just adopting. Not like celebrities who adopt all the time because it seems like they do that for fun.

Answer 12

Not anouther who has the "adoption is a 2nd or 3rd choice" attitude.

Why are people goin on like that? I may have been 2nd or 3rd choice but so what?! So the adoptive parents now get stick because adoption wasnt a first choice for them?

Your point being?............ I dont care what choice I was, I was baught up in a stable family and I am alive which is all that matters to me!! I also have 2 loverly kids. Why should I worry about that?

Its quite obvious that people are going to adopt after trying other ways to concieve. It is a huge thing when it comes to adoption. Thats just the way the world works. If people adopt and have bio kids, they get stick for that too! It seems like no one can win here. You either adopt cos you always wanted too, or you just have bio kids. This seems to be the message given out! Grow up and get on with your life. Think of the suffering around the globe. I think thats more important dont  you?

No one has the right to make that choice for anyone!