Why after the baby does my wife want nothing to do with me.?

Question

She doesnt even want to sit close to me, hug me or anything. And the s*x you can forget about that. I just dont know what to do. I dont understand it at all. Right after the baby she was great, and wanted me close and seemed like she really loved me. Now i dont know.

Answer 1

hey - first i must tell you that its not you -NOT AT ALL - please pat your self on your back for all you being thru and and not your wife either - we as females go thru what you call post natal depression sometimes towards the baby and sometimes towards the daddy of the baby and sometimes both - it is hormone related and she needs a doctor at this piont in time she is not aware that what she is diong is affecting you and in her mind you at faulyt for everything okay so go onto this website and read more to educate yourself http://www.aware.ie/index.htm - speak to her doctor and tell him what is happning she needs help this can last for 2 years or more with no help - so get help it will destroy you and your relationship with her - good luck and hang in there  

Answer 2

I gotta ask--how much do you pitch in to help with the baby?

New mothers are overwhelmed with responsibility! We feel like every second away deprives the child (we get better after # 2, 3 etc).

We are also EXHAUSTED!!!!!! Mentally, physically, emotionally.

Tell your wife to plan a day away with her friends or family, then take 100% responsibility for your child. When she comes home, she will make her gratitude very well known, and you will be able to re-connect.

Keep  your end up, keep her feeling cherished, and your life will impove vastly.

Answer 3

Big changes are normal and common. Tell her in a non attacking way that you are having trouble with it and that you guys need to talk about what each of you are feeling. Make sure that you're doing your part with the baby or she may use that as an excuse.  

Answer 4

Two things. First, after the baby is born, hormones flood the mother, they promote loving and bonding. then more hormones come along, lowering the s*x drive. This is nature's way of making sure she does not get pregnant again until this baby is older. Second, she holds the baby ALOT. If she is nursing, there is alot of body contact. She is all "touched out".

It is not you. Give her some breaks. Let her rest too. Yeah, it's kind of a bummer, but this will pass.  

Answer 5

Post pregnancy changed a lot of things in my wife.  s*x was one of them.  Part of it was just that she was tired.  A baby or toddler is a lot of work.  As for the sitting and hugging, she may associate that with s*x.  Talk to her how you feel.  Try to show that being close doesn't have to lead to s*x all the time.