Why all of a sudden does this girl's biological family have an intrest in her?

Question

There is this family who I met and now know.They have a teenage daughter who they see once in a while,however she was put up for adoption after their second child who is severly mentally disabled and has been that way since birth,and needs round clock care.There is a year difference between the firstborn daughter and the second born son,so they gave her up around a year old or so.They went on and had 2 more kids after that.So they have four children but the girl does not live with them,just visits once and a while.

The family is very cute and always seems happy,and in the brief amount of time I spent with the girl,she was very nice and very sweet as well.Now,the dad wants her to come over more,see her brothers,and uncle,and go places and things.

This is girl is a freshman in high school now,so why all of a sudden does this girl's biological family have an intrest in her?

Answer 1

Is it really you and not a friend?  You have asked so many questions about this in the last day or so.

Answer 2

ask what is going on!

Answer 3

Hey, if this is o.k. with her, her parents, and her bio family, then why does anyone else care why?

Maybe curiosity, a degree of comfort, lack of fear, love, emptiness, guilt, they like her, etc., etc., etc.

It is really not up to us to decide.  Unless you are her mother!

Answer 4

they might regret giving her up... obviously they are able to care for other children now, so they might want her back.  The reason they put her up for adoption was not that they did not love her.

Answer 5

you should talk to the family in question if it concerns you this much. Ask your parents to get you some professional help so you can be at ease with this and stop obsessing over it.

Answer 6

Because she can take care of herself. They dumped her when she needed them but now that she is all grown up they want her back. I think what they did is awful. Yes it gave their younger child more attention that they needed, but it still isn't fair to her. They only have an interest in her now because she is low maintenance, and being that she is the oldest they probably want her to babysit. Lazy...

Answer 7

People grow and change.  Maybe they have a new interest in her but I bet they have been interested all along.  If they are showing her more attention now maybe it's something they wanted all along but didn't have the confidence to make the effort.  Fear of rejection is very strong in some people.

Really there are many possibilities.  I doubt they ever felt that they didn't want to be in this girl's life and they probably never wanted to relinquish custody.  The only ones who can answer this question are them.  We can only give you oodles of possibilities but no one here can accurately answer that question because we don't know them, what they are thinking or how they feel.

Answer 8

I have heard the same little story so many times. I think you should just but out of this familys life and let them run iit the way they want to in peace without having every detail about it placed on the internet!

Answer 9

Chances are the biological parents had "interest" in the child right from the beginning, but many biological parents wait until the child is older before they try to strike up too much of a relationship.  

Biological mothers will often say that they feel as if there's "someone out there" and that they aren't whole.  Some adopted children will say they don't feel whole either, although many do.  

In any case, chances are the girl's biological father is acting for himself and his wife, whom he probably knows has been struggling with the adoption issue for years; but he probably thought he'd wait a respectable amount of time in order not to confuse a little girl.  The trouble is something biological parents aren't the brightest bulbs (pardon the fresh remark), and they may not realize that a girl who is still only a freshman in high school is probably not entirely ready to be able to deal with the whole thing quite yet.

Answer 10

You seem overly involved for someone who is just a friend.

I think, if you are just a friend, that you really need to back up from the situation, as your constant questioning is probably not helping them in anyway.

I think need to leave them be.  This is like the millionth question you have asked on this subject, or near to this subject.