Why am I afraid of attractive men?

Question

I have always had a problem with men I have found attractive. I tend to crush easily, but stay away from them because I feel ashamed, and become mute in their presence. I feel like I could never be with them and that they would never consider me to be anything.

Why do you think this is?

How can I stop it and boost my confidence?

Is it even possible that I can try to attract them to me?

Answer 1

0o0o0o hon!

e mail me when you figure this out hahaha!

im like that too, to most guys! i get all googly eyed im sure!

lol.

But at least you know your not alone!!

so sorry i couldnt help, but i wish the best of luck to ya!

Answer 2

You might be smarter than you know.

If a guy's attractive, women flock to him, so he never has to develop much of a personality.

Because women are more easily replaced with other women, he doesn't have to learn how to hold up his half of the relationship.

It doesn't make for a very worthwhile life partner.

I learned this with women ( it works both ways).  Went out with a model-quality beautiful woman - once.  She had an absolutely toxic personality - she'd been able to get away with it because of her looks.  Never called her again.

You want a guy that will be a life partner, but he will have had to learn that it's necessary for him to act that way to provide the motivation to learn the skills.

Try a more average-looking guy - they're more reliable.

Answer 3

Ask your physician about anti-anxiety medications like Prozac.  They can transform lives.

Answer 4

I'm afraid of all men.

Answer 5

I used to be like this.

Just act like they aren't good enough for you. Its attractive to them for some reason.

Soon you start to believe it yourself that you are better than them which gives you some amazing self confidence.

Soon they will be mute in your presence lol.

Good luck :)

Answer 6

Of course you can try to attract them. But have to learn to at least come off as knowing that of course you are good enough for them, even if there is some hidden insecurity about it.

If you know what you need and want, don't cheat yourself be allowing insecurity to make you automatically settle for less.

But then, some of the same men may also have insecurities and see you as so much more and feel that they aren't enough.

Answer 7

You need more confidence.. Just believe in yourself that you're enough for any guy. I kind of have the same problem the other way around..