Why am I doing this AGAIN?

Question

This little nudge inside of me wants him to ask me to marry him so very badly but I don't know why. I am a divorcee and after going through what I have the sensible side of me says don't EVER get married again and really, I am happy not being married and I think it would really s***w things up if we did get married. But for some reason this little notion in me wants to get married. I know it wont strengthen our relationship and really, I think if we got married we would just not try to impress each other as much. So why is this little person on one shoulder telling me its a good idea when the other little person on my other shoulder is yelling across to the first little person "SHUT UP"?

Answer 1

A friend of mine just remarried his X after a whole lot of years, some people just want to be married, maybe your one of those.  You should take your time and get to know the real you before you go off and get married again.  

Answer 2

marriage isn't a bad thing.

marriage to a bad person is a bad thing.

there's NOTHING wrong with wanting to get married again.  it shows love and commitment.  There's nothing that says you have to let it make you stop trying to impress each other.  has he talked about possibly getting married?

Answer 3

Sounds like you miss the security of being married. But if the relationship is fine the way it is then why go through the things that your saying will only s***w things up?

Answer 4

Because deep down we all want to find that lasting love and be married to one man til your old and in rocking chairs!!!  Well, at least most women do!

The little person telling you to get married is a mini bride...the little Shut Up person is your logic!

Only you can answer this Question!

Answer 5

How many things that you do in life for the first time work out perfectly?  Not many.  You get married, it doesn't work, it doesn't mean marriage is flawed, it just means it didn't work that time for whatever reason.  

"...Oh girl that feeling of safety that you prize

Well it comes at a hard hard price

You cant shut off the risk and the pain

Without losing the love that remains

Were all riders on this train...."

Human Touch...Bruce Springsteen

You should love each other whether you are married or not.  Love is love, and when it's good, it's awesome.

Answer 6

If you're happy single, then stay that way. As much as I love my husband if I had to do it over again I would have stayed single.

Answer 7

I think that you are just used to being with someone and always having someone and it is hard to be by yourself. I think that you have found a person that you love and respect and you just want to be HUMAN and try again. There is nothing wrong with that but maybe you should wait for HIM to pop that question. But there is nothing wrong with trying again. I think that everyone deserves a chance to be happy. But if this is your 3rd or 4th marriage please leave it ALONE!! Good luck!!  

Answer 8

Because it's possible he is not the next husband for you.  I was there in years past.  I loved being single.  I was engaged for 2 years and broke it off because he was the wrong guy.  When the right guy came along, there was no questions in my mind about whether it was right or wrong.  It was 23 days from date 1 to wedding day and that's been over 13 years ago.  I had sworn I would never marry again.  It's a good feeling to know there is someone there who will take care of us and who we can take care of, but it has to be the right person.  After a person's been through one divorce, they are wary the next time around.  I just think if you don't feel 100% sure of marriage at this time, it would be best to wait.  You stated several reasons why you shouldn't get married, but I noticed you put none stating why you should.  The way I looked at it was, you can always get married.  Getting married is the easy part..staying married to a mistake is the hard part.  If you have a good thing going, possibly you should keep it as it is until you feel certain things should change.  Good luck to ya.

Answer 9

Bcuz society and television tells us that in order 2 be happy we all must have a husband and 2.5 kids,a dog,white picket fence. I would tell that little voice 2 shut the h**l up and just enjoy him, and your freedom