Why am I getting this type of reaction?

Question

A weird situation happened to me, Well a while back I dated this guy for a few months, nothing serious, I knew some of his friends, some of his friends were my friends, so I asked him how they would feel about this and he said it's none of their business, plus he doesn't kiss and tell anyway sooo..a few months pass, he tells me to never contact him again, and if I do he will "put my business out in the street"I told him no problem,so I start running into some of our mutual friends, and I basically got ignored, I was hurt, confused, at the situation, I even fell into a depression, gained weight, scared to go places because I'm afraid of the stares and uncomfortableness I'll feel.Then too top it off, I 'm sitting at a concert, and this guy and he's just staring at me, the entire time, I stand up, and he's staring this mystery guy, happens to be his friend, and on that really made me go into a deeper depression, is it my fault, should I be afraid? What 's the explanation behind his friend

Answer 1

Sounds like this guy has been spreading horrible rumors about you. As to whether they're true or not, I have no idea. If a few of your mutual friends have shunned you without even asking for your side of the issues, they weren't real friends. I was going to say, "Why not walk up to them, smile, and ask what's going on. Tell them your side and be friendly," but I take that back. Those people aren't worth your time if they're willing to eat up everything this guy says and then rudely glare at you. This was a good thing - now you realize they aren't worth your time. You also hopefully have learned a little about the kind of guys to avoid. I'm sorry this happened to you. Don't let it hurt your self-esteem; use it as the ultimate motivation. Lose the pounds you gained and then some. Buy new clothes for yourself. Find a new guy who treats you right. Make sure you take every opportunity to go out and have a good time with friends (even when you don't initially feel like it). Isolation will just force you to think more about him, and he's gone - out of your life. I've been there before, pent up in my room, not going out, and worrying over some jerk. I picked myself up, dusted myself off, and am now stronger because of it. The next time someone stares at you, give him or her a big genuine smile, then look away. What kind of lives must they have if they're so concerned with petty rumors and treating you poorly? Feel sorry for them, because they obviously have bigger issues than you do.

Answer 2

If that's how they treated you, they were never your friends.  Better to know them for the vipers in the nest that they are - stick with your true friends and don't worry about people who have nothing better to do than put a downer on someone else's day - they must have very sad, empty lives.