Why am I happier when I'm alone?

Question

As long as I could remember I've always liked to either be alone or reserved to a small group. I've thought that this could possibly be because I'm the imaginative, 'dreamer' -type. I find a lot of times when I'm engaged in conversation I can't think as well so my mind goes blank quite a bit, or I feel distracted somehow. When I'm in a group, I usually feel like I'm always being put on the spot.

I know being alone has a wealth of negative connotation, but for me, I believe that I'm so much more focused when I'm alone. It seems that I think things out much more logically in my solitude. Perhaps its always been like my escape device from all the confusion of the real world.

To sum up my question... I'm puzzled why it seems to feel so right to be alone. If human nature tends to follow social needs, why is it that I feel like I need to be alone so much? It just feels like my destiny or something...

Answer 1

There's nothing wrong with liking to be alone or in small groups. There are many people who feel this way, myself included. Behavioral Psychologist Carl Jung theorized that people are born with certain preferences towards certain personality traits/types. One of them is being "Introverted" or "Extroverted". Introverts feel energized when alone or in small groups and often feel drained by being in crowds. Extroverts feel energized by being around people. There's nothing wrong with being either way, they're just different.

Answer 2

some people are jus lik that!

maybe u should see a psychologist tho

Answer 3

I too enjoy being alone much more than being in crowded situations, but if you see this as an issue, there are things you can do to minimize the affects of crowds.  

For starters, don't be part of the crowd...pick a person, or two, and talk with them...be your own small group, and ignore the rest. Too many conversational connections are present in larger groups, it gets confusing to track all the conversations, and withdraw is the only real choice for many people. Seek these people out, and talk with them.

To all appearances, you will be in the main group, but you will have enough insulation to remain comfortable.

Answer 4

I'm just like that too, I don't feel pressured to answer anything alone, but at times I  wish I was a little more relaxed in public,not always trying to figure out what strangers think and focus on more important matters but I sometimes can't help myself.  

Answer 5

Maybe your afaid that if in a big crowd you will say sumthing wrong and people will judge you.

Answer 6

I can relate, my wife is much like you.  This is something I have to consider as we make plans.  There is much to be said about having alone time.  The social tension will most likely always be there although you can overcome the anziety associated with this.  You can also teach yourself over time to not allow yourself to loose concentratrion when around others.  My advice would be to seek a councilor.  Keep in mind that councilors are very diffrent form one to the other, so visit with several before making your decision as to whom to use.  Good luck.

Answer 7

I prefer to be alone.

  When I'm alone, I feel a special kind of peace, and warmth.

   I find the world with it's noise and movement overstimulating.

  Naturally, I'd prefer to spend the majority of my time in this state. I can think, do, and be as I like. There's no one to please, nothing to interrrupt my thoughts, and I can put away my cheery false front.

Answer 8

If you are happy and it isnt causing problems any where else in life, roll with it. I am a "loner" as well, This doesnt mean I dont handle myself well socially, I just prefer to be alone or in a small group.  If it works for you go with it.  Yes Humans are social creatures, but the other great thing is we are all different, so Enjoy your difference dude.