Why am I having these feelings and how do I stop it?

Question

Ok, I have a co-worker whom I find extremely attractive. No problem there, right? That's normal. But, lately I've been having dreams about him. Other than the dreams, I don't even think about him when not at work. So, it's not like he's on my mind all the time. Well, I've even realized just today how much I love the smell of his cologne. I usually hate cologne because it gives me headaches. Part of the reason I find him attractive is because he is a hands-on father. His ex wants nothing to do with their son. He has custody and is a dedicated father in every way. Doesn't sound too bad, huh? So, what's the big deal?

My problem is.... I am married! I love my husband dearly and we are currently expecting our second child together. We're not having any marital problems and I certainly don't want to stray. That is the LAST thing I want.

Why do I keep having these dreams about this guy? It's not like I've never found anyone else attractive before, so why this guy and why now? I know when you're pregnant, you have frequent and vivid dreams, but I can't use that as an excuse, can I? What the heck is going on? How can I stop this? I love my family and don't want to do anything to s***w it up.

Answer 1

I have not experienced this, but I have read about it when I was pregnant flipping through pregnancy magazines.  It is something completely normal and from what I have read is a way for your brain to work things out-things that are big changes in your life.  It may be because you are so committed to your husband that your brain needs to "play" a little if you will, just to get it worked out of your system.  SInce you aren't thinking about this all the time, I would just wait for it to pass.  He'll probably do something dumb soon enough and put an end to your "dream crush".

Hope your pregnancy is going well.  How far along are you?

Answer 2

Boy do I know about this problem!  I think it's just a phase. You'll get over it soon.  Don't worry about it too much. Joke about it with a good friend (outside of work of course) and it'll disappear.  Good luck with the pregnancy and enjoy your 'vivid' dreams because they'll disappear soon enough.

Answer 3

you have not done anything wrong yet.....

dreams .. you cant blame yourself for that its just a dream

i dreamed having s*x with one of my best friends looool it happened once it was after his graduation party lool does that mean I`m g*y ? lool ofc not becuz its just a dream i had nothing to do with it

And yeah FOX I WAS THE GUY IN THE DREAM AND HE WAS THE WOMEN

lolz

goodluck

Answer 4

What you are experiencing is normal, just don't be consumed by the after thoughts