Why am I like this when it comes to guys?

Question

Ok, I always dream about a relationship, but when the chance has come along, I can't seem to let go of the power that one feels when you find out someone is interested. In short I basically drive the guys away and then blame them, like saying "well I guess he didn't like me enough if he's not going to try harder to make me his."

I REALIZE this is illogical because it makes sense someone would get tired of jumping through hoops, but I want to know if anyone else understands what I'm talking about, and if you do then why do you do it?

Answer 1

in my case, I always dream about a relationship, but when the chance has come along i always shy away as in i nevr have the courage to get the guy to like me.

Answer 2

You have a strong personality and you maybe wants a guy who is stronger than you. Most of the guys that yo have met would be weaker or would like those simple girls who would do anything for them.

I don't think it would be easy for you to change but you can try and see if you can tone down. This would help you in appreciating guys a bit more.

Also i am sure you would find the guy of your dreams but till you don't do a make **** ft with these lesser mortals and adjust a bit. After all the princess had to kiss many a frogs to find the prince charming :)  

Answer 3

Maybe ur anti-social or you act flaky on dates. I can't be with a girl that dosen't act like she is havin fun, even if she really is enjoying herself. I've met alot of girls who act flaky on dates, it really makes the guy feel hmm "boring". Even if his jokes are not that funny atleast laugh a lil.

I just think you need more experience with guys..

Answer 4

try telling yourself, ok, if i like him, he likes me, we can start a relationship.

he would be a great guy and he would be there for me when i need him. (make sure he's a good guy)

if he's a bad guy, it wouldn't be strange if you suspect him.

Answer 5

well yes i understand , you just need someone who is on your level and  is able to be a strong person and under stand you, kinda like me thats if your interisted my e-mail is [e-mail]

Answer 6

Just be yourself. You don't have to act like anyone or do anything to please anyone. Besides, when you do that, you can get to see which guy is really right for you. Remember the words...

Be Yourself.

Answer 7

Hey i know exactly what you are on about. Basically I have had dreams about all the guys I had a crush on and I enjoyed those dreams lol. however... when it came to reality I absoultly suck at it. I loose all my confidence I had in my dreams and i end up looking like a dork.  

IHow do you fix this problem?

Well I'm still figuring that out for myself, but when you meet someone try and not think immediantly he's the one. just be friendly at the start then as you get to know him then start thinking about the future, I hope this helps

Answer 8

nobody will understand you because you like to make things so complicated when they already are....lol i remember running into girl like you