Why am I only happy when I am drunk

Question

I finished a good university, but I have never been able to get a job in my profession because of my poor social skills. I am working as a bartender in a pub for minimum wage and this is the only type of work I have done, before I used to work for 60-80 hours a week so I just worked and slept, I never had time for anything else. Now I don't have much work so I call old friends and I meet with them but I am always drinking, it is all very good, I met all my shop keepers in my area and I know them by name but when I am sober I never talk to them which is strange because they recognise me... I cannot effectively communicate with people when sober, I have so many complexes, I have no proper friends, all my friends I usually meet on the street when drunk and never see them again... I don't keep in touch with anyone and don't make any friends sober and when I am drunk I do crazy things, last week I assaulted a police officer when drunk and almost got arrested ( I kicked over a bin 2 meters from a police riot van then when they all jumped out and tried to search me I punched one of them)... the only common interests I have with any of my friends is drinking and taking drugs, but when I am sober I have no interest in calling them... I have other interests like going to the gym, movies, reading etc... but they don't provide the same satisfaction I get from drinking and causing trouble... when I am drunk I feel free and the world is mine, when sober I feel like I have seen everything in this life and nothing more interests me

Answer 1

With a few sips of an alcohol heavy burden of fears is gone...What a relief..Well not forever, it comes back exaggerated next morning...every time more dense...Being fearless without certain wisdom letting you do harmful things to yourself and to others...First stages of alcoholism when you start to feel guilt over yesterday drinking and fear a consequences of it...Guilt is always based on fear, circle complete now you are circling in it endlessly unless you stop...

Answer 2

I think AA have a community who can answer your questions. Everyone there battles with exactly this question - Life looked at overall is insane but when drunk everything is great. And  slowly it is messing your life up  - you don't have to join just go and listen to peoples stories - They are the experts. They helped me and my partner from yet m one more self destructive behaviour.  

Answer 3

Simple... because you're a loser and alcohol does its usual trick of making you feel like you're great when you're not... remember the prick with a cone on his head pissing down the street shouting "whhhaayyyy whhhayyy wooooo! Come on!"

I mean check it out...

"I have never been able to get a job in my profession"

"because of my poor social skills"

"I am working as a bartender in a pub for minimum wage and this is the only type of work I have done"

"I am always drinking"

"I met all my shop keepers in my area and I know them by name"

"Last week I assaulted a police officer when drunk and almost got arrested" - ALMOST? haha... if you had of assaulted a police officer, you'd have got a kicking and then got arrested,

God... need I go on? Every single sentence you wrote just stinks of a loser! You drink because it makes it all go away and for a short time you can pretend you're superman... I wouldn't be surprised if you don't even really drink that much and you jusy say that you do to make yourself seem more interesting...

My advice... sort you life out otherwise stop asking question on websites with pointless obvious answers.

Answer 4

Hm. You're beginning to realise that the life you're leading is not good, which is a step in the right direction.

Go to a doctor for advice. It sounds like you need to do two things: learn to deal with your addiction, and learn to deal with the things that trigger the need to drink and take drugs. So basically AA and therapy.

Help is there is you go looking for it, hon. All you have to do is ask.

Best of luck with it.  

Answer 5

I don't think anyone could ever really help you.  I'm going to be really cliche here and say you're the one person who can yourself is you; try deciding what you want and go for it.  If you really want a job get one no matter what it takes.  Let's face it, unless you get over your hindrances and faults you're going nowhere.  Going to the internet won't help, just as much as going to drink won't help; going to anything is the exact opposite of what you want to do, because you don't need it.

Me; I'm only happy when it rains.

Answer 6

why happy while drunk?

the answer is that by drunk you can be able to "leave" any social "constraint" that you've owned. the alcohol do that well.

temporary though...

leave your drunken habit and don't you feel that you were the loser.

because you still know which right from wrong; crazy thing from not;

you're in the border of your future: to be bad = be a "drunken master"

to be good = begin your future from the basic of life's need: to feed ourselves by our own wage/s of whichever background of us

Answer 7

Don't rely on any sort of drug to bring you happiness, because you will never find it there. Rather, look to your family... People that love you and care about you..Ditch your friends. They sound like a bunch of losers to be honest..Find some friends that uplift you. You don't want to waste your life in a false reality brought on by drinking or drugs.. Real reality is where it's at..  Take a moment to admire nature and all of its beauty.. Try to go at it sober and you will notice things and have way more peace than before.. It's a hard ride but it's well worth it. There is no way you can ever see everything in this life in this lifetime.. there are so many things you overlook in your drunken freedom..  

Answer 8

well to becky, getting drunk is fun but its not some amazing experience or anything, things just get more silly.

and to the question asker, obviously you are drunk to block out your problems.

Answer 9

If you are having fun drinking and drugging, more power to ya. When I drank & drugged it stooped being fun at 12 years old (and I didn't stop til' 30.)

One reason you are experiencing a disconnect between drunk and sober is because what you learn drug you retain drunk so most of your social skills seem to have been developed under the influence. If you cut down on your drinking you would have to relearn all that stuff sober as if you hadn't ever done it before.

Also, for many people, alcohol gives them false courage, false because it isn't courage to be stupid, it's just like shooting your own foot and calling it valor. IF, (and I say if, because far-be-it from me to make a diagnosis of a paragraph on a page, I'm neither a health professional nor a literary expert,) IF you are a problem drinker, alcohol usually takes away interest in other things, that is the "well of addiction" that exaggerates trivia and trivializes your real life.

There is a test used by some experts to determine if a person is a problem drinker. It is called the C.A.G.E. test. If you answer two or more questions YES that may explain why you feel so singleminded about your drink.

1. Do you ever feel the need to C)ontrol your drinking?

2. Do you feel A)nxiety about whether or not their will be alcohol at your next event/function/situation?

3. Do you feel G)uilty for things you have done while inebriated?

4. Do you make E)vasions or lie to others to protect your drinking.

If you are a problem drinker, you may have a devastating and progressive illness called alcoholism. There is no cure but many people find the ability to arrest the disease in support groups such as Alcoholics Anonymous.

Good Luck, and have a drink for me.

Answer 10

You drink because you are idle and not stimulated.  Return to your former source of stimulation and your drive will return to you.  

Answer 11

Now that's a problem. I'm told(because I've never been drunk myself) that getting drunk gives you this amazing high and you feel wonderful. But to me it just numbs you so you don't have to feel anything. So you don't have to try. Maybe because your afraid of failure or rejection. I hope you find what your looking for.