Why am I so afraid of getting into a relationship?

Question

Alright, this is kinda hard to do, but I have to know how to deal with it.

There's this guy who I really liked (See my previous question) who broke my heart & I'm trying to move on. What helped me most was that I met another guy that I like, and he asked me out, but I lied & told him I'm busy. Why? Because I'm afraid of getting hurt again, and I don't want to lose him, he's a great friend!

PS: I do NOT want the heartbreaker back. And I know it's too late for him to apologize. Please focus on the fact that I'm afraid of dating & getting into a relationship. Because I know that if he breaks up with me it'll be harder than last. Because last time we weren't in a relationship, we were only close friends.

Answer 1

I am too, I'm tired of people just using me.

So I have a hard time trusting anyone now.

Answer 2

I kind of know where your coming from. I think it is fear from being hurt again.

I just had a good friend leave this morning. He came from Montana and took me around on the hog yesterday for Sturgis.  He hurt me awhile back, so this visit, I didn't give him s*x.  I'm thinking our friendship has moved past the hurt and s*x now.  For along time, I as just keeping him in my heart, and now I see friendship is just all we have.  I fear dating others, cause I felt my heart was for only him, but now, I need to move on if I want romance and s*x.

Good luck.  Try and shake fears. We all learn to hurt and be hurt.