Why am I so afraid/ paranoid of dieing?

Question

I don't know why but I've had dreams of me/some of my family and friends dieing and then I get really scared and a paranoid.... a few times I've actually wanted to tell my sisters to keep all of my stuff if anything ever happens to me and like pictured what I'd do if a family/friend died. It's creepy..and weird and I wish I could stop it. I haven't told anyone before, and not wanting to go to a counselor or doctor but does anyone know why? Personal past experiences? I get paranoid about a lot of health conditions too..like if I have some symptoms I'll google it and think I'm going to die and I've creeped my sis out with a bunch of things..brain tumors, an STD, cancer...., ..why? :'(

Answer 1

I've been through this before.. Its an overwhelming feeling..

Well I overcame it because I realized that we are all put here for a purpose. What's meant to happen happens, even if it is bad. But worrying about it, just makes life un-enjoyable. Look at the big picture, your worrying about worrying, manwhile, there IS people with cancer, std's, and disabilities. Its a sad thing, but we are all put here for a reason, and I don't know you, but I highly doubt you've accomplished half of what you want to accomplish in life if your worrying so much about something that you have no control over. When you over come that fear is when life begins, trust me. I know its hard to just take my advice and "GET OVER IT" but that's what your going to have to do in order for your life to start =) just trust me on this one, and let go, set your mind free, don't worry.  

Answer 2

Dying is something we all have to do, don't be scared.

Answer 3

Dont be frightened, you dont remember being born, you sure as h**l wont remember dying, and everyone has to some time.

Answer 4

the way i counsel myself regarding this problem: wherever my loved ones that i lost went, that's the place i'm heading to. according to the laws of our universe, matter cannot cease to exist. there will be something that will remain of us. maybe 21grams of matter.

Answer 5

Hi!! this ia a very common dream and has nothing to do with family or friends dying.

These are feelings that you carry from your childhood days.All children call where they live "HOME"  but in reallity it is not their home and, always they have to ask their mother/farther can i have a friend in, may i go out and play with my friend etc.,. You see your pparents doing anything that they wish, or want to do and resent the fact that you cannot do the same. Being too young to understand it  boils up inside of you  and causes this situation. Now you know the root cause you will think of this realise the reason and will not have the dream again. Trust me i have seen this so many times in counselling adullts with this persistant problem .  

Answer 6

I think Freud would say that you're fear most likely arises out of some sort of guilt. Perhaps it's not goodbye that you want to say, but something else?

Do some soul searching - is there something that you have left unsaid? an apology you feel you should have given? or some part of your life in which you feel unfulfilled?

not much more that can be offered without seeking therapy - why are you against this?