Why am I so angry all the time?

Question

Recently, I've been feeling so angry with everyone and everything, but I have no idea why! Here are some of the things that have happened recently:

-My best friend recently got a boyfriend.

-A pervert added me on MSN.

-A guy I really like doesn't like me (as in he hates me and everything I stand for).

GRRR! I don't know if any of the above have anything to do with why I'm so angry, but at the moment, I'm really trying to focus on calming down. Does anyone know how I can stop or at least soften how angry I feel?

Answer 1

The first thing to understand is that anger is an internal thing, not external. You list a number of things that have made you angry, but the truth of the matter is that the anger has arisen within your own mind. The things themselves are not anger-generating, it's your emotional reaction to them that is angry. You can let it happen, or you can learn how prevent it, the choice is up to you. The great thing is that, because it's inside your mind, you can control it if you put your mind to it.

The technique involves observing yourself getting angry. Next time it happens, analyse what's going on, how the emotion is building, how you react to it. Try to be an impassive observer, the "higher level" of your mind observing what's going on in the "lower level". Think of yourself as a scientist observing an experimental phenomenon.

Then observe the anger being maintained over a period of time. Finally observe the anger subsiding, decaying, and dying away.

By doing this you can gradually learn to control your anger before it goes too far. Meditation helps too, by making you a calmer, less easily annoyed person.

Answer 2

''Acceptance'' ~ of these facts and that ''these things happen'' ....rightly or otherwise.

People become angry because they are upset over some hurt or perceived hurt done to them, and they feel wounded in their feelings.  This in turn can be exacerbated when A: no one actually hears them when they complain or express their hurts:  B: when there is no form or way to redress this hurt ....from which comes a sense of injustice.

-My best friend recently got a boyfriend.  Ok, that's too bad ~ for you. So what's wrong with that, Why can you not be pleased for your friend? What does you feelings and your behaviour say about you as 'A Friend'!

-A pervert added me on MSN. You cannot 'block' this person?

-A guy I really like doesn't like me (as in he hates me and everything I stand for). And you can't be BIGGER than the childlike response to you and everything you stand for....!!  Does this mean you cannot simply smile and still go on liking him anyway?

I get the impression that you are really just looking for things to be angry with in order to go for some goal....  though I could, of course,  be wrong.

Let's see what tomorrow brings, eh?

Sash.

Answer 3

you are deppres

Answer 4

I know how you feel.  I also feel angry, having to accept a string of circumstances outside of my control that I loathe.

You mustn't repress it, I did this and it's stayed for years.  

It's not actually the string of circumstances that has made me angry, the anger was already there and repressed and it was one person who had caused it.  

Think back, to when you began to feel this, and try to pinpoint the person or whatever that did it.  Ignore the irritations on the way (like the pervert).  They are not your problem.

Answer 5

hmm...maybe your angry because your best friend is spending more time with their boyfriend.

If the guy doesn't like you, then why bother with him ?

Find some1 better and likes you for who you are :)

hmm..go for a long walk to clear your mind

chill out and listen to music

or have a hot relaxing bath :)

or do something you enjoy. . .

oh yeah and smile :D:D lol

hope this helps :) x

Answer 6

look at your profile picture it shows us you are always angry  

Answer 7

Hi, i think it would to do with the things that have happened to you recently, especially the guy who hates you, i had a similar problem with my friend who i got on well with and then told her i loved her and she now doesnt speak to me at all. But yeah i think you just need to consider your life in general and how everything is going and believe that in the end it will all be fine and ok because it will be. Just try to relax and have fun, what ever you are doing!

Good luck!

Answer 8

Work out. Get a punching Bag and wail on it unitll you cant lift your arms up. Then do it again. That will release your anger for the day

Answer 9

one thing that may help is if you think about what made you angry. is it that you want to be with someone but the world doesn't.

after you think about that talk it out to a friend. just tell them to listen as you say everything: what you think about these 3 events, why you feel as angry as you do. you sort it out and have the friend just listen. the only time they should respond is if you ask them for their opinion.

lastly, before you go to bed, sit down and breathe for about 15 minutes. just mediate and only think about your breathe, until you feel like you can't sit for any longer, or until you fall asleep.

hope this helps

Answer 10

maybe have jogging can help you..

you'll vent anger and feel lighter..don't think at te rest just have jogging and don't forget to listen to music!

the bad period will pass..

life is made of moments ups and downs..we all have them..

bye

Answer 11

anger like this usually happens because you haven't dealt with a your problems correctly. something happened and you probably left the wound open. think about whats really bothering you. is it family? friends? work? school? avoiding your problems and locking them down only causes stress and problems for the future. thats why all the small things that happen agitate you so much. you sound like a high school kid. high school itself can be a confusing period in life. just talk to someone you trust and let your feelings out. it will feel better. and working out does help, it releases endorphins into your body that make you feel happy. well good luck with your situation