Why am I so annoyed by the little things people do?

Question

For the past couple of years, I've noticed that little quirks that people have, such as using improper grammar, really bother me. Most of all, I get really irked by people who are ignorant. I'm a junior in high school, and my fellow students annoy me to no end with their mindless chatter and overall lack of knowledge as to what is going on in the world. If it helps, I was diagnosed with OCD when I was about nine years old. Is there anyway for me to overcome this? I can't seem to just "let it go".

Answer 1

well i can see what you mean about the OCD by your need to correct your own spelling error on Yahoo Answers.  But i know what you mean by people's incorrect grammar being annoying.  Maybe you should start small by typing normally (no punctuation/ capitalization), and then try to work on not letting people bother you.

Answer 2

My answer is in the form of a question. Why do you allow it to bother you? Do it make you feel superior? Oops  If you are really honest with yourself, by my question. You already have the answer. Yes! There is a way to over come it.  Once you find out why it bothers you, then you can drop it, but only if you really want to.

Answer 3

That is so weird! I am the EXACT same way. But, I am a sophomore in High School. I told my doctor I think I have OCD but she thinks I am like retarded and well, she didn't answer me. But any-who, I always correct people and I get annoyed very easily if people don't have class and use improper grammer, also. I like having things done my way. If they do something I don't like then I will get mad. Little things always bother me, even if they do the smallest thing wrong.

Answer 4

i doubt it. OCD is a disorder. just go with it and keep your mouth shut.

Answer 5

Megan,,  We are all imperfect and flawed little people..In the scheme of all things what we are ,,and even what we accomplish,,is inconsequential in the larger picture.. It is better to look at the bright side of life,,than to try to correct all of our little short comings..Don't take yourself or anyone too seriously.. Try to live life in peace and tranquility.. The old saying,,"It is better to light a candle,,than to curse the darkness !" ALWAYS,,hold true..Try to overlook the peoples flaws with whom you come in contact ..Advance a smile,,or a friendly greeting,,when engaging a person..When you see a person with a smile on their face,,you are inclined to do likewise..Your fellow students are just trying to "fit in" in a imperfect society,,and no one really  knows what the right thing is to do..Life is ALL trial and error !! Compassion and understanding,,is the key to acceptance..The world is filled with ignorant and simple minded people,,whose only task in life they will ever be able to accomplish,,is to try and be accepted..I know you don't want to be arrogant,,especially ,,when you will find much more acceptance by being tolerant..              SOLOMON

Answer 6

Well, considering the fact that I'm your possible long lost sibling, get used to it, kiddo.

When I was a Junior in High school, I never hung out with anyone, much less had intense conversations about astronomical findings, or whether UFOs existed. Consider it a gift my friend.

I, too, have OCD and to be quite honest, it makes for more of a benefit than a hindrance. I find myself to be more organized, I get more sh*t done in a day, and I can still make time to make fun of lesser individuals who otherwise have nothing better to do than breed.

If your friends annoy you, tell them to get a hobby. Unfortunately, I have no good news as far as misspellings and/or useless grammar, because like I mentioned before: The stupid people will continue to breed, and will possess no consideration for your (or my) concern. If you can let the misspellings go, I'd consider you in tip-top shape. (The most you can do is scoff, anyway)

[shrugs] If anyone else has different to say, then we both clearly know what category they belong in...

Good luck.  

Answer 7

I do not have OCD, but I also get annoyed with people who are unable to communicate effectively in their native language, English.  

You can make a conscious effort to take a more philosophical attitude about it.  You have to learn to accept and tolerate people in spite of their faults.  If you have to be a perfectionist, it should only be in those things over which you have some control. You may try to influence others, but you only have any direct control over your own self.

Answer 8

I find very often that we tend to see the faults in others for either one of two reasons. One because we don't want to see our own faults or two, we see ourselves in other people and we hate it so much that when we are confronted with it, that makes us crazy! Even if these two examples don't fit your situation, there is still something within you that triggers this. Ask yourself, maybe you learned this behavior from a relative. I find myself  to be alot like my Mom. She is very critical of everyone. Infact so is  my Grandmother now that I think about it. There are alot of things about us that we would love to change.

Be patient with yourself, that's where it starts. I find myself still getting annoyed with people from time to time, hey I'm human. Think about this next time you find yourself annoyed with someone else. What if it was you that someone else was annoyed with, how would you feel being on "the hot plate"? Sometimes that works for me. Another is this. Imagine that person not having the oppurtunities you have. I am a paramedic. I see all kinds of people struggling just to get through life. I was just like you at your age. Now at 44, I choose my battles. I'm reaching out to you as someone who has been there and quite frankly, I still am from time to  time. The OCD may or may not be part of it. Either way as we both know it is something  that only you can confront. You are a very smart person and you sound pretty tough. Try this on for one day. Go to school and try to be just the opposite just for one day. Be more patient with people. Try to empower yourself by being the hero for a change. I know that they are silly and immature but you can be the leader and see past that. Good luck my friend.. keep you chin up!

Answer 9

OCD has nothing to do with you getting annoyed with others, people with OCD are more concerned about rituals and events in their own lives, not the lives of those around them so much.

OCD has nothing to do with feelings of annoyance with others. You will face many people who you do not agree with or feel that they are ignorant. Its your own thoughts about those people that annoy you that lets you get so annoyed. You need to remember that everyone likes to think they know more than the next person, if that was not true then this website would not exist. You need to take a breath and realize that even if someone doesnt know the first thing about politics or world issues, the important thing is that they care enough to discuss this. maybe you can offer helpful insight when they get something obvious wrong, but never speak in a judgemental tone, simply join the conversation and maybe you could teach them something.