Why am I so competitive and jealous, and what in my chart would indicate that?

Question

I notice about myself that I always have to be the 'one and only' at everything. I want to be thought of as the best, and I always have to one up somebody. Even if it is in a subject that I know that someone is better than I am in, I get filled with anger, and I try my best to act like I know more than they do, which always ends up annoying people, or causing them to distance themselves from me. I try to suck it up and act humble towards others and show them respect, but inside there is an anger boiling in me because I can't be better than they are, or recognized for what they have.

What in my chart would indicate this, and how can I get over this problem?

http://www.astro.com/cgi/chart.cgi?rs=3&btyp=w2gw&&cid=6b5fileQvSDU1-u1214916648&nhor=2

Answer 1

ummm. bc you are not very good looking to be completely honest. Being hot helps alot with someones security... When your not hot, I could imagine how fusturating it could be... very hard I would imagine

It's probably not an astrology thing bc my moon: aries is squared w my cap mars and im nothing like you- if it does i would blame it on your cancer moon (yuck) or the fact that you are on a libra/scorp cusp (yuck, again) i personally know people w those placements i want to kick.... but i love at the same time underneath it all, but not on the surface nor in person

honestly i just think that you are sensitive and have low self-esteem, being for real- you just need someone that can see right through you and subtlely put you in your place. That or a psychologist would work (if their good). Someone to call you out on all your bs everytime that you do it (can see through you) but not down you for it at the same time. You just need to feel like you are loved, but you are going about it totally wrong and in a messed up way. Just relax and think out of yourself.

Answer 2

. I'm just like that... I think it's your pluto in the 1st house. pluto is a VERY strong influence if in the 1st or conjunct ascendant. You also have sun right on top of your rising sign, which shows a strong personality. You want to be the best and be over ppl.

I also agree with janet. the ruler of the second house is in the first house which shows a desire for power as well.

Answer 3

Who said being competitive is a minus?Who said it's bad?I am very competitive when I want o win and I usually achieve my goals because I'm competitive.

From what I see-you have only one fire sign in your chart and it is Sagittarius in Venus,maybe this is why you are competitive.

Scorpio's ruling planet is Pluto and maybe that's why you are jealous.

I just looked at a chart with an explanation-

Mars is in 20 Degrees Libra.

You are very aware of the need to cooperate with others in order to further any effort. You are usually willing to compromise with others, although you can be quite competitive in a friendly way. Very fair- minded and impartial, you have the ability to sense injustice and the desire to take corrective actions to make proper compensations. You see both sides of issues and questions, but you tend to be undecided or wavering when forced to make choices that might make you vulnerable or unpopular.

I don't see anything about being jealous though.

*I try not hurting people while being competitive,how about you try that too,since we can't change the planets' position in your chart.

Answer 4

scorpio in the first near  the ascendant makes you act like you're jealous; 28º aries on the partnership box means competitive with regard to relationships.

libra mars in the subconscious anger area (12th) .

this is the second weakest  mars position of the lot (maybe it's hard for you to deal with your anger) plus it's in the house of the subconscious (which means you will not be able to see how angry you are over something  - neptunian influence of the 12th house). you set yourself up for failure...  you have a built-in blind with this aspect - see a trained assertiveness expert or anger therapist

p.s. you have a difficult task to master:

pluto in the first, (with scorpio)

this is a double whammy -

to master pluto; you must act honorably;

don't worry if you are not doing the right thing;

pluto is not subtle and

he will correct you right away

p.s.s. on the upside, you may be involved in a

solid partnership with an easy-going wealthy adventurer

(venus ruler of the 7th house in sagittatrius

in the second)

Answer 5

ha! you are a total b*tch.

Answer 6

The Sun sqr the Moon and the Moon sqr Mars would do the trick! :-)

Answer 7

interesting question, i wish i had more time to answer but im on a time limit lol, but i think everyone feels this way to a certain degree.

However, this being said i certainly have a libran friend, although she is lovely does this aswell. Librans like to please remember! i think to a certain degree most cardinal signs are like that, and your chart is filled with them, they want to lead, be first and be boss!

im like that too, i have a big pride and im power hungry and at least your honest!  

-mars leo

moon scorpio

Answer 8

Hey RachRach!  interesting question.  Idk but I do know that from my experience with Cancer's they are like what you are describing....competitive, jealous, pretend humble, needy, insecure, always having to one up you even when they are supposed to be your friend and supposedly care about you.  I found that to be very strange but then I thought that a lot of  very insecure people are like that (although maybe they have Cancer strong in their chart too ---hmmm).  

Anyway, this is just based from my experience and yes it is their sun sign so maybe that is not fair to go by that alone but a pattern is a pattern and must stand for something, no?

Good luck with that---I know I am unable to stay in a close relationship for long with a person who consistently (everyone can have insecurities but being an insecure person is innate and is totally different) displays these traits.

Sun: Sadge

Moon: Leo

Ascendant: Gemini

Answer 9

Scorpio on the cusp of the 2nd (values) with the ruler, Pluto, in the 1st - a desire for power; Sag on the cusp of the 3rd with ruler in the 9th, the hard aspects of the moon on the MC; mars and the sun in the 12th.  

I don't know specifically what you can do to get over this problem, but I bet it felt good just to post this question. Recognizing and identifying a problem is always a good start.  Look at the positives in your chart and try to capitalize on those assets. That competitive spirit is a wonderful thing to have but in the proper context; when it overtakes everyday interactions, then you must work hard to keep it in check.

Edit:  yes, that too.

Answer 10

Well your moon is Cancer and since Cancer rules the moon, you can come off as really moody, clingy, and irritating to others.

Answer 11

I am still new to this and I would have no clue what to look for within ones chart to give a good answer.....in accordance to a direction to look within your chart....

However, I would suggest trying some meditation....

maybe you are trying too hard to be nice and respectful (not that I would ask you to not be respectful)....maybe you are trying too hard to outdo too many people in too many fields of study/sports or what ever you desire to be the best at....Stick to one and put all of your energy and focus into that instead of trying to spread yourself too thin, it is not getting you anywhere except angry and frustrated fast! Try to figure out exactly why you may be getting angry and frustrated......and who this may be aimed towards....are you angry because so and so is better or are you angry because maybe you feel as though you aren't good enough and are afraid others may see this as well?.....and so on.... I agree that your chart may be a tool to help you with this, and I regret that I cannot give you any insight on your chart,....I am still learning to read my own and would not want to give you any misguidance!

I have, however read some of your Q/A and from what I can recall about you, you can be very thoughtful....maybe take some time to yourself to look inward...you also seem to be insightful of others...maybe take time work on you and your own thoughts....the ability is within you .....I hope you find it/whatever it may be you are looking for...be it by chart or by heart!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qx10ZrVeK...

for you, from me....

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8gUQ9K-4L...

:)

Answer 12

Because you are a complete b*tch.

Answer 13

if that don't help u, what can help you? is we are cold and see your natal chart you have troubles. accept them and if people annoy you you got two options... 1 sacrifice for them or 2 fight or let them go.... or try to change analyzing everything by yourself and be smarter than planets.... everybody has problems... one big problem is being negative.... if you're competitive and jealous try to focus that energy in something use-full.... art can be good thing for you.... who cares what aspect is, no aspect said you were going to loose some of your friends....

No, you're not a *****!!! i didn't mean to be a ***** also i was just angry...