Why am I so drawn to this man?

Question

In April of 2007, I met him talking to his girlfriend (at the time) We all worked together and she and I were friends, but no longer. He started IMing me at work and then texting me and we became best friends. Then I discovered that the girlfriend had been abusing him and he had even had her arrested for hitting him and that she demanded that he quit talking to me after I refused an invitation from her for s*x. We continued talking anyway and he decided to end their relationship and needed help in establishing himself. I opened my home and offered him my help. The girlfriend was ruthless in her pursuit for vengeance. False reports to cps, the police, and turning my co-workers against me with outrageous allegations and tried to get me fired for hostile work environment. She was finally fired when it was realized what she was doing to me. Since then he and I have become more than friends and I want to know if it is meant to last.

Answer 1

The answer lies within the question, most of what we think is "true love" is merely based on curiosity, fascination, personal interest. What we don't know, we want to know and once we figure it out, we discard it.

If you really want to know if it was meant to last, question whether or not you're truly drawn to this man. Ask yourself, will there ever be a time where you're not be drawn to this man.

Most of the time, when we ask ourselves this question, there is usually only one answer; we're not, we're merely fascinated by the individual in question something which the individual has been able to invoke from his behavior and it's only a matter of time before we become familiar with this behavior, before we become bored, fraught with monotony and discontent.

"True love" is love where there is no question, for it's simply something we embrace, something we do. To deny our natural instincts against such an impenetrable force would lead to madness.  In other words "I love, because I love,"

So If it is truly meant to last then there would be no question because out of everyone you could ever possibly be with, he is the only one who could ever satisfy everything you could possibly desire. In other words he truly is your other half, a half which naturally no one else can fill.

Answer 2

Maybe she realised that he is attracting more towards you thats why she became jealous of you and started a cold war against you. I dont know and cant say how and what type (cahracter) of man is this.

You know him well so you can decide better.

Answer 3

Why do believe everything he tells you? Because he could have met his other gfriend the same way he met you.  That is way to much drama for one guy.  What makes you think that this gfriend is finished with her vendetta against you?  If she is this ruthless then she may not stop. Not only that how do you know positively without a doubt that he isn't IMing her now?  He can stand on his own if he is a 'real' man. I would be very cautious as to having him in your home.  You can be friends,  but sometimes we are drawn to things that are bad for us in our lives.

Answer 4

You're attracted to drama. He has it in bucketloads!