Why am I so mean and angry?

Question

Before I got into a relationship I wasn't as mean. My girlfriend has two kids and I am now taking care of my two nieces. I'm taking care of four kids by myself when my girlfriend is at work. I say things that I should say and I feel like I'm on a war path with myself. I want to be nice but I don't know how. I try but I honestly just fail at it. I've thought about anger management but right now I can't afford it. Where is this anger coming from? What can I do to make myself a better person?

Answer 1

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Answer 2

The first thing you really need to do is to relax, just relax a little bit and always remember that you should not allow anything to make you lose your temper.Always ask yourself:What's the worst that could happen?, and you'll find that nothing is worth your anger.Relax and try to enjoy everything you do, and am sure everything is going to be alright.Take Care

Answer 3

I think your anger could probably be coming from the feeling that you have, that you are not doing what you would like to do.  Do you have a dream?  What is that dream?    I suggest you let your girlfriend get a baby sitter for her children, and that you start doing something for yourself.   You can do anything you set your mind to do, if you have a positive attitude.  Of course you are angry.  You feel trapped!   Start writing down a list of things you would like to do, and start changing things for yourself.  You do not have to be mean or angry, just be determined that you are going to have a good future.  The future will be what you make it now, so start NOW.    I know for a fact, that if you have something within you that is yearning to get out, some talent, even if it is digging dirt, and you love doing it, your whole outlook will change.   It doesn't matter what you work at, as long as you love what you are going.   Start writing down, start looking up, start searching on the net for things that make you happy regarding work/.   These days there are so many ways to find out information.

I would sincerely suggest, also, that you take a second look at your relationship and ask yourself some serious questions.  Do you want to be with this lady and her children for the rest of your life?   If the answer is no, then very gently, and nicely, do something about it.

With regard to your two nieces, are you happy and satisfied baby sitting them?   If not - change it.  Change the things in your life that are not giving you fulfillment.  Never let go in a negative way./  Always let go of people and things, so that you will not have any regrets or guilt later on in life.

Yes you DO> know how to be nice.  But you have to love yourself, and be happy with your choices to know that good side of yourself.  The only reason you are feeling the way you do, is because you are NOT happy with the choices you have made so far.  They can always be changed, and you can always make your life better.

Been there done that/.

Peace and love,  

Answer 4

Mean and angry means usually that your'e feeling hurt and want to change something - It is a step up from being apathetic.

Anger management is always a good skill but how about what you need?

What do you want to change about your life? Looking after children is often a very unacknowledged role and 4 can really take it out of you - are you tired and want some down time or change your  situation get part time work and hire a nanny whatever - time to take stock of what you want out of life.

  

Answer 5

only one reason..you just can't cope taking care of kids and it is just not you...so you're stressed out...

Answer 6

First of all you are noticing that something is different about you.  That alone can be the first step.  It sounds like you have your hands full and you may be a little depressed.  Depression shows itself in several ways.  Perhaps you should tell this to your doctor and maybe he/she can give you some advice to help you.  You never know but it could be a medical problem that you aren't associating with the change in yourself.  What ever you do think before you show your anger to the kids.  I hope it gets better for you.  Good luck!