Why am I so scared my baby is gonna get hurt?

Question

Okay, i have a nine month old precious baby girl. She is my 3rd child. I just have went a little crazy after having her. I worry about all my kids but I am just all the time thinking of the worst things that could happen to her and I get so scared and rather annoying to my husband... as he knows how to tke care of her he says. When I go to work, i just can hardly bear leaving, here are some things I think of and speck to my husband to watch... don't change her on the changing table cause she could roll off and snap her neck, don't let her by the stairs, she sould fall and get hurt, don't let her pull up on that stand cause there is a candle up there and it will fall on her. Don't let her sleep with you cause she will die of sids, don't give her a blanket in her crib... sids, no bottle in bed she will choke, is the lcd gonna fall on her,kids don't carry her cause your gonna fall and drop her, (which has recently happened) don't let her by the stove she will get burned, don't take her outside its too hot and overheating causes sids, what if she dies from sudc, don't use cleaners where she will be smellint them, don't put her by the door in the car cause she could fall out, check on her every two hours that she is breathing, always scared something is gonna fall on her and kill her or she will fall and snap her neck, and always terrified she is not breathing in her sleep. My house is baby proofed and my husband is amazing and I am just consumed by this. Does it mean something is gonna happen or is this just a mother worrying? she is a very healthy, happy little girl. I rarely tke her out although she loves being out, because I don't want her to get germs, I never let her around other kids cause I don't want her sick. Help Me!

Answer 1

i think its just a mother thing. i do that all the time. i also get frustrated because men dont think of the things like we do . my son was 2 wks when he ALMOST rolled off the couch because my husband was taking a cute picture and started to roll off of the pillow. i almost punched him and felt like telling him if anything would have happened to him i would have killed him(my husband) but i didnt i just had to walk away and cool down because he knew how upset i was.  but now i think my hubby is starting to think like me because my son was in his car seat sleeping with a stuffy nose and i said i wonder if they know how to breath through there mouth with a stuffy nose? he said "why do you do that now i dont know if he is breathing" so i had to mess with him until i saw him move lol.your just being a good mom.

Answer 2

Oh, My, God.  There is still time to get a life you know.

Answer 3

It could be a combination of a mother thing and PPD. I would talk to your doctor about how you are feeling.

Oh and just so you know SIDS is not caused by baby sleeping with you or blankets as of right now they do not know the cause.

Answer 4

I am very touched with your present situation and I would like to help you to keep your daughter safe. Your present pattern of thoughts can bring tragedy if you don't change it right now. You have to keep in mind that she is healthy and in good hands and not focus on all the bad things that could happen. I'm sure that your husband is aware of all the dangers already and the fact that you keep repeating it isn't going to keep her safe. You know that parents could bless their children or curse them and for the sake of your daughter's life, stop cursing her. When you catch yourself thinking a bad thought, stop and create an awareness of your thoughts and create an opposite picture in your mind. If you're picturing her falling, immediately picture yourself catching her falling and never letting her get hurt. Create positive image in your mind, this way you're blessing your baby girl and protect her with your thoughts. I wish you and your baby happy and safe life. Don't keep focousing on the bad things, just the good things, and with time you'll get the hang of it and won't drive yourself or your family crazy. We'll pray for you!!! :)

Answer 5

im the same way.my son just turned 1 and i don't like that his little cousins touch him cause i figure they will give him some horrible germs  (cold, ring worm). a lot of people say he is so cute every where we go, so i start thinking what if someone tries to kidnap him?  i tell my boyfriend all the time, we need to keep a close eye on him, what if he falls off the bed head first?  i know my bf thinks im overreacting but i cant help it that is just the way i feel.  i also wonder what will happen when he gets older.  will he get into a horrible fight with someone? will someone ever try to rob or kill him?  i know i sound crazy but i honestly think other people feel this way and they just don't admit it.  i don't think we will ever stop thinking about it, we will just learn to not talk about it so much.

Answer 6

Relax,first,you cant thrive on thinking about ever thing that's gonna hurt her,just keep your eye on her good and,you and her both have fun.

Answer 7

Please do not take this the wrong way, you need to seek counceling. I would recommend going to your family doc first and they may refer you to a specialist. You may have obsessive compulsive disorder. That is what it sounds like since you are CONSUMED with this and can not function normally. I hope that helps you, good luck.

Answer 8

I think you may have postpartum depression. Go see your doctor for advice ... this happened to me right after having my 3rd baby!!!

Answer 9

u are treating this baby gal of urs too much like a delicate glassware...

i think being possessive and protective of ur child is normal...but don't over-do it...she might h8 u for it..cuz ur not giving enuf freedom...my mum used to be liddat..she's v strict with me...i noe tt's cuz she cares..but it's juz annoying..

maybe u can put urself in her position? not what u think is best for her, but wad she thinks is best for herself (:

best of luck

Answer 10

Totally normal.  As it is not your first baby, you know what you need to do to keep her safe.  Act on your instincts but at the same time, try to relax and enjoy her and the rest of your family.  I had a really bad case of post partum with my last child and these are all things that I was nervous for too.  Of course, I took it to another level and was constantly paranoid but luckily, it eventually faded.  You'll be all right.  Maybe seek some counseling or support from your friends and family so that you can get the reassurances that you might need.