Why am I so uncomfortable around my mother?

Question

I'm not uncomfortable all the time, but if she cries or shows any strong emotion, I just want to get away and sometimes I'm mean to her because it makes me feel so strange. We have a decent relationship as mother/daughter I guess... but a lot of times she acts so weak and it makes me angry. For example, if I poke her lightly on the arm, she screams "OW THAT HURT, NOW I'M GOING TO HAVE A BRUISE!!!" and one time when we were watching House, I said "This episode has a little bit of gore." And she just started sobbing and saying "ASHLEY, I DON'T LIKE GORE, I DON'T LIKE IT!!!"

I know I may seem kind of cruel, but I can't help it, I just can't stand how she acts. And no, she was never abused and nothing traumatic ever happened to her.

Answer 1

I think that's reasonable, you're kind of afraid to cave in like she does so easily. Just try to rationalize what you're so angry about.  

Answer 2

maybe you don't know her just that well. try having more mother-daughter moments. talk to her often. ask. listen.

Answer 3

SHE NEED MEDS FAST!

Answer 4

Your Mother may be going through Menopause or the change of life. She might be more sensitive than you. Try to be more tolerant and realize that no one is perfect. We have to respect the differences in others. Just say, OK Mom I am sorry that upset you. Love your Mom.

Answer 5

try and become numb to it all lol.

Answer 6

you're obviously not comfortable around emotional women, and that's alright. try asking her if something is wrong and if you can do something to help. try taking her to a doctor sometime soon. you're mom is acting somewhat mental and you should try being a bit more tolerant. this might be a problem that you don't know about. good luck.

Answer 7

Because your mum is a drama queen who seems to have issues.

Answer 8

its hard when the person you look up to to be strong shows weakness.

a better way to handle it may be to try joking with her to make her realize its not as bad as shes making it out to be. like , oh poor baby got a boo boo, and then tickle her to get her laughing.

or , mom, you know that not real its just hollywood.

it sshouldn't have to be up to you to make her stronger but it sounds like she needs some help.maybe sit her down and tell her how when you were small you looked up to her and believed she could do anything and she always came to the rescue when you got hurt. ask her what has changed. but don't be mean or run away from her . she devoted a lot of her time to raising you, give her just s little of yours.

Answer 9

maybe you should ask her to see a doctor or somthing. that is not normal. maybe she is depressed.

Answer 10

Bipolar or is she retarded?

Answer 11

  Just  pretend  and  be  kind  it  is  one  of  our  Gifts  ...

                                         UNDERSTANDING

                                   be  the  bigger  person

Answer 12

just  tell  here

Answer 13

DONT worry my mother does the EXACT same cr*p! I get really annoyed with her bc we can even watch a movie bc more then likely there will be something she does not like. If I barely touch her she screams ouch now I am going to get a bruise or i am already covered in bruises why are you giving me another one? It drives me crazy. I love my mom and we are not as close as you and your mom. But there are times I can not stand her and want nothing more then to get away from her. So I guess I am saying you are not the only one. Lots of people have this issue. I think honestly they do it for attention. But thats just me.

Answer 14

If you cannot resist a person that is so sensitive and aware how do you expect to meet in person the Most vulnerable of All, the Most sensitive of all? Or you believe that He has to be just like you, insensitive, independent, egoistic, self-oriented...... No wonder your kids are the way they are? I am sure that the real kids are different, they have learned so much from your egoistic self-obsessed personality, much more than fake kids you have, accepted just because you needed someone to teach and fill your house with, someone to logistically support your idiotic workshops where you play with people's mind and abuse every line you have ever read in every book during your miserable life. Seeing all with your eyes doesnt mean you know anythink about us. You dont know anything about yourself, let alone other people.  

Answer 15

She does seem a bit strange. She may not realize her drama queen actions are causing a divide between the two of you. You could try to talk to her and tell her how odd it is to you and that it causes you to back off from her because it is so weird. Tell her you dont know how to deal with it. Not knowing how to deal with it is why youre so uncomfortable. Tell her you love her but that the strangeness puts you off.