Why am I so undecided in life? why can't I listen to my heart?

Question

I'm always the last one to order because I never know what I want, and even when the waiters ready I still don't know, and in like choosing colors. I'm always never sure if I'll like the out come of it. Now I'm in grade 11, and I don't even know what I want to do with my life. I don't know if I wanna go to a college in the states or stay in canada. I don't know what career I want. I'm always changing it. I don't know what my hearts saying. I'm always thinking about the money, and never if I'm going to happy with it. I'm so caught up in what people expect me to be and do, and not what I want for my self. I was thinking about after I graduate take a break (maybe a year) and just travel (if I have enough money) around the world, and find my self (it sounds cheesy I know, but it's how I feel) find what I want to do with my life. I told my mom about it, and she didn't really take me seriously(whenever she does this laugh thing and then answers the question it's the equivalent to a "yeah right" or "whatever") I'm so afraid of telling my Nana and my dad because their so strict. I don't know where the question in this is. I just wanted to say how I feel. Feel free to answer (or even just read)

Answer 1

I don't know what I am going to do with my life either.  Don't worry about it.  Just let it go to God. Let him help you and he will.  It may not come in an instant, but it will come.  I'm waiting for God to put something on my heart.  Why I am bringing God into this is because God know and love you.  He will put it on your heart, what he wants you to do.  It might not be a doctor, a lawyer, or even a garbage man, but it will be something you will be happy with.  If you do it for the money on whatever you do, you will miserable.  I know because I am a man that like to study religions and things dealing with phyclogy.  I have also been through a lot in my life.  I might in up being a couselor or a preacher.  Who know?  God might have a plan for me like that or maybe not.  I know God will lead you in the direction you need to go.  I know because he has lead me out of the darkness and he has saved me more than I can count.     God love you.

Answer 2

don't worry I'm like dat all the time i leave school in may and i don't even know what I'm doing in college

Answer 3

Accept yourself for who you are and how you are, because that is what makes you special.  You can have all the money in the world, but it will not make you happy if you never followed your heart's longing.  

Don't worry about not knowing what you want to do with your life...a lot of people go through college and don't know what they want to do with their lives yet, so this is perfectly normal.

Just be patient and eventually you will find inspiration in something, but be sure to follow your heart and not what your parents believe is best for you.  Of course you should listen to their advice, but take it for what it is, just advice.   It is your life, and you need to do what is best for you, not anyone else.

By the way, you are listening to your heart and trying to find it.  That's probably why you posted here, just to get things out and to figure things out.  Keep searching and you will be alright.  

Answer 4

i felt like this too in highschool. dont worry, a lot of college students go in undecided about what they want to major in. talk to your school counselor about this and go online and do some career evaluation tests to help you get started. you can still go to college and have an undeclared major and the advisors there will help you choose one that is is right for you. just remember to do some research on how well it is doing in the job market since you are worried about money. like if you are good in math i would be an engineer or astronomer because they get paid really well and are in high demand. also going into the medical no matter what area you will ALWAYS have a job. i am doing pre-med neurology. i started off as a psychology major but changed when i spoke with some older students and graduates that told me it was incredibly difficult to find a job in the field. neurology and psychology actually correlate in some aspects so i am happy with my major. do like i said and talk to your counselor and look online to take some career evaluation tests. google it all up lol good luck and if you need anything else my email is [e-mail].

Answer 5

It's no big deal not to know what you want to do now. I am 25 and have been to 3 different trade school, and dropped out of 3 different trade schools because I was pushed into doing something with my life. Now I have fallen into my life. I am writing my second book, and starting my own baking business from home, just from my hobbies. Actually getting paid for doing what I love. I have tried doing everyone else's career only to hate it. I was at the same place you were a few years ago and a old lady asked me "If you could do one think for the rest of your life with out one worry of money, what would it be" I told her writing. She told me "do it". Hope it helps a bit.

Answer 6

That was deep. To me, it sounds like you really do need a break. Try meditation. You need to do what you feel YOU will get the most out of and enjoy. Don't try going around and doing what everyone else wants. Traveling will also help you to become more world wise and it may help you make a choice on what path to choose. If you explain in this much detail to your dad and nana, then i'm sure they'll understand. Hope you get this sorted out (:

Answer 7

You're still in 11th grade so I wouldn't worry too much about it. Talk to people about areas you might be interested in studying. Think about it as much as you can, but don't feel like you are out of time already. Late high school is when a lot of people go through this crisis. I'm in my mid-20's, out of college, working, and I feel the same way. I don't know why I'm doing what I'm doing or what I can do about it.

Don't rush decisions. If you aren't sure what you want to do for college or in college, don't rush into it. If you feel rushed you will find mistakes are harder to reverse. I rushed into my area because I felt like you are feeling now. I felt like I needed to just pick something and go with it. Now here I am, and it's harder and harder to go back.

College is when a lot of people discover what they want to do.  Don't panic now, you are in the same boat as a lot of people.  Never shut out your options or make assumptions. Leave your options open: if you don't know where you want to go to school, apply to several in the US and Canada and if you can, visit them.

It's not too early to think long and hard about the future, but it is too early to start panicking about it.

Answer 8

First of all YOU are important to this world.  Your gifts and or talents are given to direct your life. What interests you.  Many things maybe.

What do you do best and easiest.  Make a few decisions before you are confronted with a decisions. Decide what foods you like now. Decide what it is you enjoy now. You can change your mind at some point but you must start somewhere.  Even if it's not your final answer !

Start today making some small choices for yourself. Go with what you feel are your gifts.  Whatever that may be it will tell you something about who you are.

I suggest you get a book I found and love. It is a personalized book with your name throughout made just for your own encouragement.  Learn of your own special self worth. This will give you some confidence and direction. Do this for YOU !  You can see it at the site below and you just fill out the first page and you can see your book before you buy. Lots of professional athletes have this book and depend on it for confidence in what they are doing. It's a great book...

You can become anything you desire but you have to work on you and direction will come.....

Answer 9

Here is the thing if you take time off from school you may not go back. I would suggest go to school and do so away from home. Live on campus and get grants or loans and work really hard while doing your generals there. Somewhere you will find yourself. Don't think that you have to have it all figured out now. There is time for that.

Keep smiling.

Jennifer

Answer 10

Stop being a wuss ... go to college and make some money....  

Answer 11

Hey There,

I was the same way as you. Take for instance when I was younger I think I wanted to be a firefighter, then I wanted to go to space, then as I got older I wanted to be a vet, then I actually went to undergrad and then I went to law school, I never took the bar exam (at least not yet) because I opened my own business, now I also run my fathers business. I am doing good with life but I am never really fully decided. I have horses, I say I will down size and I do, then I get more. But you know what? Some people are just like that. Don't let it stress you out too much. For instance.. I have good paying jobs, I have a good life, and I am not the most set in stone type of person but I have many friends, etc. You will be fine, the most important thing though? Learn to follow your heart and realize that the sky is the limit so keep soaring and believing in yourself. Best of luck to you! It may not be a question you asked but it was a good point.