Why am I so unlovable? Do people not care about personality anymore?

Question

I recently found out my fourteen year old brother has had a girlfriend before, but I have never had a boyfriend, and no one at my school has professed to liking me. I know it's not because I'm shy, because my brother is way shyer than me, and he always has people in love with him. I think it's because I'm not very pretty (bad hair, acne, glasses to name a bit), but I have a very nice personality. Are people only guided by physical appearance, or am I just unlovable by others (family excluded)?

Answer 1

There are people who care about personality, but they are few and far between. Don't let it get you down, be who you have to be! Otherwise you will feel soooo empty.

Answer 2

You do not mention your age but kids are not looking for a spouse or life partner. They are shallow and want a pretty girlfriend to show off and SHAG. Your brother could end up being single when older while you could be happily married to the President of the USA and have 2 kids. In the mean time being happy beats anything else. The introduction on the site below talks about that and how you can be happy.

Answer 3

Some people are only superficial people & that is what they look for.

Others (and I think these are the best kind) look for the personality or the soul of a person to shine through.

Those with a personality that shine through are worth 1000 of the rest so shine away & be pretty in your own way.

With my very best wishes. UK

Answer 4

Guys only care about your looks. Face, ****, ***...and that's about it. Just get surgery when you're older.

Answer 5

ugly ducklings turn into beautiful swans, like me!  I think that if you go to your doctor and get some acne meds it will clear along with proper skin care. get contacts, go to hair dressers and get a nice style and colour. i believe that you are right, personality is most important. The feeling of making the best of your looks will bring confidence to you and then it will be the confidence that will make you shine! buy beauty books and mags to get ideas, something nice and natural

Answer 6

I made passes to women who wear glasses, but they ignored me. That was until I turned 50! You need to network and interact with clubs or other activities! What do you like to participate in is where you would find boys! The key for anything would be 'dutch treat' on a date or outing(pay your own way).

Answer 7

People are into looks more than personality. I must say, the same thing with me. Except I had a boyfriend  before. But SOME guys love personality, you just have to find the right one. Most of the time at the end of senor year they relieze that it's not just about the looks. (: