Why am I such a loser? Why do I struggle to get everything done?

Question

I should be extremely successful. Yet it seems that I constantly struggle in ways I should not.

Here is an honest assessment of myself. Am I just a sucky person, or do I qualify as having some sort of diagnosable problem that can be treated? Am I just an irresponsible idiot?

- I am a 32-year-old female who is still working my way through college. I fail some of my courses. I am extremely bright but I skip classes a lot, mainly to sleep because I stay up very late.

- I procrastinate in almost everything. If I don't want to do something, I don't do it.

- The same goes for paying bills - I have terrible credit because there have been times where I just ignored bills. I felt like, well my credit is already bad so who cares...

- I have a beautiful face (everyone tells me so) but am really overweight. I have been bulimic since I was 13 and my weight comes and goes. I used to work out a lot, but I have had a few serious injuries and now can't do much, so the weight continues to pile on.

- I sleep way too much

- I am a complete slob. I keep everything around me in a total state of disorganization

I have some good traits.

- I am very smart

- I am artistically gifted and work as a designer

- I am kind, loving and thoughtful

- I am very generous with others

- I have a very good sense of humor and make people laugh a lot

- I love animals and am constantly rescuing something

- I don't steal or use people

- I always help people who need it

In the past I have been very depressed, but right now I don't feel depressed. I just feel like a loser who can't get organized. I've been tested for ADD and don't have it. I have seen therapists but they don't seem to get it. I'm such a nice and interesting person to talk to that they focus on this and it's hard for them to see what a mess my life is.

Just recently I've been trying to consolidate my debts and bills and looking at my credit report realize what an irresponsible loser I have been. I am starting to feel hopeless, like there is no future for someone as awful as I am.

help please. thank you.

Answer 1

your lazy thats all

Answer 2

If I were you, I would purchase some Tony Robbins books on CD.  There are some for weight loss, and self improvement.  They have helped many people through hard times, and I think they could be of use...

If you take them seriously, I promise results!

Answer 3

first of all, you're not a loser. you're just had a set back. talk to the credit companies and see if there's any way they could help you out in paying your debt back. about the classes... i soooo know what you're going through when you say you skip classes. what helps me is i keep a planner. franklin covey is my best friend! get a planner from staples of something and make sure you write in when you have to go to class, when to study, when your assignments are due, payments on bills, whatever. that should get you started on something. about the exercise, can you do yoga? ask your doctor what are you allowed to do. apparently yoga works! haha. or take like a light ballet class. or something. oh!!! in you planner write in once a week or like 20 minutes a day to clean up.

this has worked for me. i really hope this works for you.

good luck. and don't feel bad about yourself. you still have decades before you have to retire.

Answer 4

No no you not a looser! You have so many good qualities and the fact that you are aware of your good qualities is already a plus. Lots of people don't even know what their good qualities is at 80. You are irresponsible when it comes to Credit you must grow up there and understand what the h**l you are doing. You must stop buying on Credit and Pay all your bills. As you see the Credit starting to clear you will already feel better about yourself. Bulimia well there you have some issues because if you had it for so long already you must have an over developed jaw and irregular heart palpitations and bad teeth. You must stop now. Go back to gym. Maybe see a Physiotherapist for your injuries. If you do the right exercises you can fix your injuries. Exercise is always important and you need to fix your injuries now otherwise when you older you are going to have real pain. Sleeping allot might mean that you are depressed although you think you are not. Being a slob well that's hard to cure because I think its just in you. But once in a while sort out your cupboards etc. throw away all junk and organize a but.It will probably get disorganized again. But then one day just dig in again and organize all over again. This organizing will also clear your head and give you prospective. I know it sounds crazy but really. You have such other great attributes Concentrate on them. Good Luck and go finish school!  

Answer 5

Its just our age. It's very dull and boring. If your like me you let thing pile up just so you can have somthing to Rush for later.

But if you spend money you don't have and are REAlly irresponsible...you could be Bipolar...and need meds.

Answer 6

confidence and ambition are key here. I used to be overweight and broke constantly because of my horrible spending habits and drinking problems. it is important to keep yourself surrounded by friends when at all possible. believe in yourself. I was overweight and strruggling with school even though i was smart like you i choose to skip class and not keep up in my classes. I started working out and stopped drinking completely i am in the best shape of my life and i dont drink anymore. You have to find something to keep you preoccupied and take up an interest in it. Mine is working out and sports. but as you said that is hard for you. but you should find a hobby which really interests you, possibly one involving some sort of athletic activity.

Answer 7

I feel great to answer your question. In fact, I am also like you now. Now I am struggling in pursing my current career. I can't proceed to my next career since I still doesn't have enough experience.

I got to tell something that

1. you need some rest.

2. you need some balance in life.

3. you need some to be displine.

4. you need love what you do.

5. and etc.

Answer 8

I think you are awesome!

You shouldn't think you are a loser.

Don't dwell on the bad... look more at the good.

"There are high spots in all of our lives and most of them have come about through encouragement from someone else. I don't care how great, how famous or successful a man or woman may be, each hungers for applause."

George Matthew Adams