Why am I uncontrollably angry?

Question

Without explaining my life story, divorce and negativity has surrounded me my entire life. Everything good has been taken away, even my best friend died from cancer at 14. I have been noticing a change in the way I handle stress and I can't stop taking it out on others. I get so so angry that I scream, swear up a storm, my heart starts racing, and I forget what I am doing. I can never seem to just chill out. I have gotten into some physical confrontations with my best guy friend because of this, too. I don't want to live like this, where do I turn for help and does anyone else get like this? Could it be because I was exposed to violence in my home as a child? Is there anyway I can get over this WITHOUT medication? Any advice is greatly appreciated.

Answer 1

Anger isn't bad, everything under the sun, but we as people must show moderation. Something taken very lightly in many different places.

Anger always has a start, a kindling frustration. Maybe it's something someone near and dear to you does that annoys you, maybe you need to just get some steam off your chest.

Negativity can be harsh and unavoidable, but it's your perspective on life and what makes you happy/calm that can make a difference.

Simply ignoring and repressing won't do, you need to learn how to let things roll off you like water droplets on wax paper. It's not an easy thing to do, I know.

But by thinking positive, enjoying the little things in life, maybe even going to stress management so you can express yourself more freely and deal with problems as they come in a healthier way.

"The mind is its own place, and in itself can make a heaven of h**l, a h**l of Heaven."  - John Milton

It's all about perspective.

Answer 2

Yes, there is a way to get through this. It's called talking to your friends. So this guy friend you have, I bet he'll understand if you just decided to talk to him and unload all your stress. It's good to have someone to talk to, and even better to have someone who'll just listen.

I'm sure that this guy will understand and be happy to let you unload all your stress. You sound like a really nice girl and maybe all you need is just someone to talk to and unwind with. Try spending a day with this guy and see where it goes from there. I know you might not like him, and a relationship might not be the answer, but if you're buisy having fun, you'll forget about everything for a little while. The thing I'm trying to say is that you have to slowly move on. Try getting some sleep and then go out to breakfast/lunch/dinner with this guy, or just go to a movie. But whatever you do, make sure you have fun, and just live for the moment like I do and try not to dwell on what's happined in the past. =/

The best of luck to you!

Sencerely,

The Cool Guy

Answer 3

I've had the same kind of problems. Could be post traumatic stress, or a chemical imbalance, or as in my case a hormone problem. I get overly mad and emotional due to an increase in estrogen every month and its only gotten worse since I've been on birth control. I was exposed to major violence my whole life and I think anger may be somewhat genetic too. I've gotten so mad before that I've actually blacked out and tried to kill people. I'm passive until someone pushes me to my limits but once I black out I get crazy violent.So I know how you feel. It sucks, especially being a woman because women are not supposed to act like this.

Answer 4

smoke some weed

Answer 5

im exactly like this to and its because im bi polar and ive had alot of things happen to me also i just try to disassociate myself from people or situations that i know may cause me to just loose it. it helps alot. and if i can i try and sleep in till my body wakes me up or i might be mad through out the day randomly. i havent really figured out how to do it on my own and i have been without meds for about a year and a half now so im still trying but try those and it might help.    good luck hun.  

Answer 6

Well the first thing you need to do is take a second and tell you self and accept the fact your have a problem like many other people and medication might be the answer. Once you accept that fact then you might get better go talk to you're doc and see what he says. good luck