Why am i alone???????

Question

i know your gonna say im too young to be alone,but oh well,im 14,my family,i love em,but i wanna get away from em for a little while,ya know? i am always around em,i have 1 guy friend to talk to,but i cant talk about personal stuff with him,i dont have many friends,have no girlfriend havent for a looonnnggg time,scared to walk up to one,i want a guy friend to talk to and a girlfriend,im alone,my fam. loves me,i love spending time with my 21 year old sister,love her to death,but i cant hang with her everyday,i want a friend,im tired of playing games,im tired of watching tv/movies,i want to do something,i dont get to nothing,such as,go to friends houses,they have to come here,cant drive,only 14,cant go nowhere and get something to scared to ask someone to go with me,half of my family HATES ME,and yes,they have told me that and they did mean it,my brother in law,we cant hang out for a lil while cuz for 1.he works 2 jobs,from 6am-11pm,and off half a day on saturday and off both sunday,he never wants to hang out ive asked and asked,i have,no one,what do i do? im depressed!!

Answer 1

You're just going through a chemical and/or hormonal imbalance that all people go through at your age.

You're taking life way too serious.

Good luck

Answer 2

well, u could always go to a gym or somewhere where there are people that you can have something in common with, maybe camp or just call some random chick from school

Answer 3

why do they say they hate you! that's pretty mean! if i were younger i'd be your friend!

Answer 4

I'm sorry I'll be your friend

Answer 5

Because you smell like fish

Answer 6

make a myspace i geuss and add people you would like to make friends with

Answer 7

Do you have school friends?

People who live on your street?

Can you join a swim club/another sport you enjoy doing.

When you meet someone new, don't always hang out with the one person, try some different people so you have more friends if one relationship doesn't work out.

Answer 8

well im 19 homie... and u sound like me at that age and this is forreal... not trying to make anything sound good to make it relevant to urz... at 14... i had no friends ... i went to an internet cafe and pissed my money away on counter-strike and warcraft ... i was a fatty too... the summer entering high school is where i completely changed my life... dieted .. went to the gym... ran...still played my computer games but just busted my *** to change my image... when i got baq... everyone was like WTF... its funny how shallow some people be that its when u r finally visually appealing to them that they need to communicate with u.... anyway.. i was desperate so as much as i saw it as corrupt i didnt care... ever since then... ive made many friends ... had alotta ... and i mean ALOTTA girlfriends... and like the people that say they are gonna hang out wit u and dont ... ****'em... who cares... change ur image and dont be so shy... juss gain some confidence ... make some jokes and show people its a pleasure to be around u

Answer 9

being with people is way over rated.

Answer 10

Want to be friends with me?

I'm in the same situation.

I'm 14 years old and I feel the same way.

I actually had to get counseling because of the things I did to "get away".  

Answer 11

I hate to break it to you, but you gotta start talking.

Try to talk to more people at school.

The first day of school is coming up again, so sit with the "cool" kids at lunch.

Whoever you hang out with on the first day of school is most likely who you will hang out with the rest of the year.

Good luck :)

Answer 12

be more sociable,

Answer 13

tldr

Answer 14

Well first of all before you can make new friends and even get a girlfriend your first are going to need to get some courage. for example i liked this one guy and i used to be really shy and i would never have the courage to go up to him and talk . So finally my cousin taught me this way of building some courage now everyone is nice to me and the guy i liked is now my boyfriend.Also if you are a having family problems even though you might hate this your going to need to talk to them and about your brother in law you should talk to him and maybe he will be able to take a vacation day and spend a day with you to get to know him.

Hope i helped  

Answer 15

i am the same way. i mostly talk to people on websites and only have one good girl friend and one good guy friend. ill be your friend

Answer 16

I know exactly how you feel. and i am here to tell you that it really does get better. try making yourself more outgoing. don't be afraid to go up to people at school and talk to them, because you never know until you try. because your shyness is partially why you have not made many friends. you need to open your mouth and talk to people and show them how interesting of a person you really are. since your first day of school is coming up (i assume) then you should just go up to someone and talk to them. sit with them at lunch or a group of guys who seem kinda cool. they may end up being actual friends. is there anyone your age at your school maybe, who you notice is alone most of the time? try talking to them. it may sound weird to talk to someone who you might percieve as a loner but i did it when i was in your position at the age of 13 and we have now been friends for 6 years. i'm sorry that people in your family hate you but don't let it bother you, some people are just mean like that. but, do not say that you have no one. you do have family that loves you. just think of all those people in the world who are not even that fortunate. and that one guy friend of yours. have you tried talking to him about personal stuff? maybe you should talk to a school councelor or something. some school councelors are really good at giving advice. or find a teacher that you really like. they are good at it to, because once upon a time they were your age. and do not worry about having a girlfriend at this time. you have plenty of time. but if you really want one just get over your fear of talking to girls. not every girl will be s****. towards you. also if they don't end up as a girlfriend they could end up as a really good friend. so keep your head up and put yourself out there.

good luck, hope i helped.

Answer 17

I know you've stated this, but I'm going to remind you again. You do have family that loves you, if not your entire family. So many people can relate to that.

Perhaps you don't have quite as many friends because you simply don't present yourself as the person that you truly are. People often have many funny/witty/interesting/etc. thoughts that they don't express. People like to be interested. That doesn't mean you have to be typical or outrageous.

Meet people with similar interests by joining clubs and recreation groups inside or outside school.

Talking about things may be hard though. If you are willing to make a Facebook or Myspace (whichever is more common with classmates) it helps you socialize. It helps people get to know you. Of course, edit your privacy settings. (Facebook has many more privacy options that ensure safety better than Myspace.)

Shyness has a lot to do with caring too much about what other people will think of you.

Good luck. :)