Why am i not happier about it?

Question

ok see i am only 14 and well i had s*x i know i am really young and i shouldn't be having s*x well i thought i might have been pregnant so i took a test and it turned out i wasn't yay for me right? well i thought that i was gonna be SO happy about it well when i found out part i was relieved but kinda sad why is that i am not that happy i am only fourteen and i don't want to have a kid this young so what do you think it is?

Answer 1

My guess as to why you felt sad afterwords is because you are already feeling so many emotions as a girl your age, throwing a fork into it just makes things more stressful.

You chose to have s*x and you shouldn't feel like you have to explain it to other people. Just make sure you DONT SETTLE or do things you dont want to do. No guy is ever worth that much. But if you feel like you are ready to have s*x, being ready to take proper precautions against STD's and pregnancy goes hand in hand. (I sound like an after-school special :)...) But if you cant do both you shouldnt have s*x. There is nothing wrong with waiting a little bit longer.



Now, back to your question. Having s*x when its still new is exciting, but twice as scary. That combined with a pregnancy scare  makes emotions higher. After finding out you were not pregnant was probably exhausting because maybe you had prepared yourselin casese you were. Many women have an immediate attachment to things they can nurture, so many women experience some sort of let-down when they find out thearen'tnt pregnant even if they know they should not have a baby atm.

Its normal for you to feel this way..but if it makes you feel any better, your time will come when you are in a place to have children and raise them well and love and nurture them. Its a matter of time before that happens, so for the time being take things slow and enjoy being young because you will never get this time again. Good luck sweetie! Dont settle or be pushed around.

Answer 2

I think you are too young to be having s*x and experiencing these emotions- that's why you find it so confusing. Please wait until you are older and more able to deal with the emotions that an intimate relationship brings up. You've got plenty of time, enjoy being young, you'll never get another chance at it!

Answer 3

uhmm.... in a way it's natural for you to want to be a mother even though you were scared..... or you might just want a child because you need someone to love you unconditionally.... there's multiple reasons you are not happy about not being pregnant.... when you think of something like that you're relieved but at the same time sad of the thought of what could've been.... give yourself some time to grow and i'm pretty sure you will have a nice life in the future...