Why am i not social?

Question

i am going to middle school and i am not social. My dad is very very social he has so many friends i cant count and everybody likes him and is respectful to him.he is dark skin color. He is also strong. My mom is light skin color and she has friends but not as many as my dad but she is social. i am mixed. When i went to camp most people were light skin but i was nice and they didn't like me. most people there liked the rude kids. Also at my school the same thing. Is it because i need to be tough because people at my school like the tough kids. If so how do i be tough. I mean at home i am a little mean and tough and loud but at school i am shy and quiet. Why am i like that?

Answer 1

It has little to do with your skin color, most likely.  Develop an interest in music, you don't need to show it off, just be comfortable with yourself plus who you are and others will take notice.  The coolest kids don't care whether others like them or not.  People generally don't like mean people, middle school can be very difficult, I hated it.  I was so glad when those years were over, but nobody will remember them much.  Everyone is mostly focused on themselves and their own worries.  To get along with the guys, maybe try to participate more in sports.  To get along with the girls, just be yourself - I know it's simple but that is honestly the best advice.  :-)

Answer 2

You certainly don't have to learn to be mean and tough. You would be wiser to try and accept yourself. Your parents are older and are more comfortable with who they are, which is a part of ageing. Try out for some extra-curricular activities and find out what you're good at. The better you get to know yourself, the more comfortable you'll be. And you'll find a group you fit in with.

Answer 3

it's not about being tough and arrogant, it's about being sincere and confident.  don't get caught up w/those tough kids.  accept w/who you are and once you do that, it will be hard for others to try to bring you down.

Answer 4

you are like you because you are being yourself.

many children have a facade, and are not being themselves.

its easy to be rude for them because they are acting out childhood abuse by being rude, and receiving negative attention. dont worry about you, its ok, you are so natural.

its perfectly ok if some people dont like you, but they have to show you respect, and sometimes you need to command that respect, and thats something maybe you need to learn.

just be yourself, command respect, and the people you are attracted to will become youir friends.

Making friends is sometimes taking risks.

you are ok .

Answer 5

I do not see any problem with being less than very social. It is not a "good guy, bad guy" issue.  Many of the most interesting people I have met in life are a bit shy or reclusive.  Since you are entering middle school, you may become more or less social.  Most importantly, my hope is that you will always be yourself.  Query:  would you like to be rude and social?  I think not!!  Just give yourself a break.  You are that age at which you see all of your shortcomings more clearly than your positive features.  It is really kind of normal and part of the pain of growing into a young adult.  

Answer 6

It has nothing to do with toughness or skin color. You just need to come out of your skin and talk to everyone. Don't care what anyone thinks of you. You should be able to wear the most horrible outfit and worst hair color, and would not care. I think you hit it on the head when you said your shy and quite. Just talk more, talk to everyone, say hi, start a conversation. Being social is being talkative. If you are not talkative you have to wait for someone else to approach you and make the initiative.