Why am i so worried that someone i don't want to hang with will...

Question

Come to the door. I'm 16 I don't wan't to hang around with this boy becuase i simply don't like him becuase he degredes s*x and talks about things i really don't want to know about becuase he's g*y (Nothing wrong with that btw) he likes to explain to me what he does, he also wants me to 'party' with him which basically means..do drugs and/or drink (which i wont be in the mood to do so untill college, though i'd never do drugs) Anyway my brothers making me feel guilty becuase i don't want to hang around with him and i'm here thinking..wtf, if i don't like someone, i don't HAVE to like them. I just feel guilty though, becuase i don't want this boy to think i'm ignorant or dislike me or think something is wrong with him, but i just don't want to be with him, we just don't click.

Any advice on how to swiff him off?

Answer 1

Explain it to him, you don't have to hurt his feelings. He should understand not everyone is compatible. Your brothers should respect your feelings and allow you to choose your own circle of friends. Tell your friend what you wrote here, that he's sweet and your flattered he wants to be your friend, but you just don't feel comfortable with him. Explain it's not his sexual orientation, just the not clicking together thing. Believe me, he will be much happier when he slots into his own circle of friends.

Answer 2

well is he really your friend? just tell him to stop talking those c**p and if he was really your friend he would stop. or you can just tell him to f*ck off. well i probably wouldn't do that. you should just tell him to stop bothering you, if he keeps doing it, try slapping him

Answer 3

First of all, lock the doors. Second of all, i've had this situation myself except it was a little different. There was this kid and he would constantly call me ( Like 20 times in an hour, literally. ) I would annoy him but he recently came over to my house which was really wierd because i didn't answer his calls for a reason and he knew this. He stayed at my door for 10 minutes intill i got up and told him off ( By the way he wrote this whole essay on how i hadn't picked up the phone and left it on the door when i told him to go away.) So, the best way to get away from the situation is next time he comes over say " I don't like the way you talk and act and i don't feel like being around you, sorry" or you can simply stay inside and not answer and he'll eventually get it. Once again lock your doors, that kid i was talking about whent into my house when i didn't answer. Good thing i didn't loose my temper...

Answer 4

My question to you is....how did this guy get to be a  friend when you appear to have nothing in common with him?

You certainly don't have to spend time with him if you don't enjoy the time you do spend with him.  I'm a firm believer that honesty is the best policy and I'd just tell him what you told us......that you have different interests than he does, that you just don't click and you feel like you're wasting your time and his!  Over!  Done! Finis!  As for your brother....if he thinks this guy makes a good friend, tell him he can be friends with him....but you're not!

Answer 5

If he does call (which is unlikely) just say you are busy.

Answer 6

if he is your friend then you just need to simply tell him that you dont feel comfortable talking about that kind of thing! and if he dont like it that you said that to him then he aint your friend after all!