Why ar people always judging people parenting?

Question

Everybody says i am a bad mother because I let my daughter pose,I disagree my daughter wants to be a model. I think that posing and taking pictures,and letting her get use to it will help her.Here are the pictures I am talking about

http://i346.photobucket.com/albums/p440/MrsAlyshia/0008051CR4J.jpg

http://i346.photobucket.com/albums/p440/MrsAlyshia/westunninondemhataz.jpg

http://i346.photobucket.com/albums/p440/MrsAlyshia/0001051CR4J.jpg

Answer 1

sounds ok to me. it's nice to follow our dreams.

pretty girl.

Answer 2

You are not a bad parent. Some parents force there kids into modeling for money.

Answer 3

If your  daughter is happy doing this than there is nothing wrong with it, it would be different if you were forcing it on her.

She is beautiful by the way and I hope she can make her dreams come true. she has a mother to stand by her and support her, that is not a bad mother...that is a great mother!

Answer 4

She looks old enough to know what she wants, so if she wants that, and your happy about it, then just do it :)

Shes gorgeous, and maybe it will be a lovely start to a very good income job :)

Answer 5

I don't judge it at all. Your daughter is clearly attractive and old enough to know if she wants to do it or not.

Although, I personally find her poses a little too adult like for her age. They kind of border on tacky, but I am sure some children's modelling is appropriate.

Answer 6

Now I am judging you, your daughter  is too young to model. Let her concentrate on her study first, plenty of times when she is older or she finishes her uni.

Answer 7

She is cute enough but modeling is hard to get into and it is a hard life.....steer her for med school.

Answer 8

Well, she looks like she's having fun, and isn't that what it's all about when you're only 9 years old? Maybe she wants to grow up to be a model. Maybe she'll change her mind and become a doctor. Who knows? When I was little, the first time someone said I could be anything I wanted when I grew up, I said, "I wanna be a Unicorn!"  which I'm sure was just terribly cute... and obviously didn't happen. lol...

Oh, but your question was about people judging your type of parenting:

Because you let your daughter "pose" Really? People say you're a bad mother because you take pictures of your daughter that aren't completely candid? Now, I never had the grace that your daughter does, but I would pose for the camera whenever it was out. There's really nothing weird about you or your daughter. She doesn't even look "overly mature" for a 9 year old to me.

Good luck, and have fun for goodness' sakes!

Answer 9

Your daughter is beautiful.  I don't think anyone has the right to judge another parent, unless of course it is neglect.  this is not neglect.

If this is what she really wants to do in life then I see no reason for you not to help her pursue this.  I would suggest making sure that she learns how to maintain her self esteem and learn that it is not dependent on anyone else. Being nine, still makes her a child, so it is the confidence, esteem, and learning that looks aren't everything issue that would be important.  I am sure you are already considering this, but thought I would mention it.  

Other than that, as parents aren't we meant to help our children?  Is it our right to tell them that a perfectly acceptable profession is not what they should do because you would like them to do something else?  We all need to learn through our experiences, that is the best way to learn sometimes, so if you give her the experience she can judge for herself whether she wants to pursue it or not.  But it also teaches her independence, because she is making the decision on her own, so she learns the responsiblities that come with that.  All good really.

Don't let anyone tell you that you are a bad mum, too many people try and make that judgement when really they are annoyed you are not doing what THEY want you to do, but who is to say they are right?

Answer 10

People judge you because it's human nature to judge a parent esepecially when it comes to young children modeling. Honestly, I think it's a horrible idea. Just look at the fashion industry. They have very specific criteria for a model to even get close to doing anything. You have models with eating disorders whether it's bulimia, anorexia, or both. You have models on drugs so they have enough energy to get through photo shoots. I think it's better to have her model in front of you if that makes her happy, but to put her in a modeling agency trying to find work to become a model not the best idea in the world. It doesn't matter about how mature the child is modeling is a competitive industry.

Answer 11

Its human nature to judge everything. I agree, with your parenting style, and I hope your daughter becomes a great model.

Answer 12

yes there is nothing wrong with that she is beautiful you are teaching her to love herself, self confidence, by helping you are making sure she doesnt get into low self esteem, and the pictures are tasteful its not like your are posting online pics of ur 9yr old in a bikini or anything so you are doing a wonderful job and ppl are very judgemental and just say s***w em!

Answer 13

Your Daughter is Beautiful!! If she wants to be a model let her just make sure she gets her education.. I don't see anything wrong with her being a model.. She is very pretty!! I say go for it!! : )