Why are Indian men like this?!?

Question

First I am Indian (like from India) but I live in a wealthy suburb which is predominantly white. I think I might be the only Indian in the city lol. But yesterday my dad decided I should get to know the "Indian community" and not have so many white friends and a white girlfriend (yes he's very racist). So he made me hang out with 7 Indian guys at the mall and they were okay.. all they talked about was work and were very touchy with each other, but as soon as any girl walked by they would just give these dirty looks and say vulgar things to them. Then they started cat calling this woman who was with her little daughter and a baby. I told them to stop cuz it was completely disrespectful but they kept on doing it.. I got pissed and just left. Was I just over reacting?

Answer 1

wow what losers..indians speak so loudly about molrals and values and its their sons and  daughters who end up violating them most of th e time...as for you, you were being a MAN by asking them to stop and not trying to FIT with them..man i respect you so much that i was complelled to answer this question..lol...commendable..

Answer 2

No, not all Indian men are like this. You are basing off your decision after interacting with just 7 guys, and that's very immature.

And I think what those guys did was a reflection of what any disrespectful or immature person would do.

I am also from India, and what I have realized after staying here is that most people from our community who come here as students, do very well for themselves.......make a lot of money, have great jobs, etc.. But the other part of it is that most (not all) students who came here in the early and late 90s were the ones from lower middle class India and had a very conservative upbringing. Even after coming here, many of them have been unable to change their mentality. And the ones who were were from upper middle class, upper class, or higher strungs of society in India, never felt the need to leave their country to look for a job in the US......they would just visit US as tourists. And those people are the ones who are as, or even more, open-minded than the Western society.

But we, living here, mostly see one aspect of the community, and it is not true. As with anything else, do not generalize and base off your decision with a person's ethnicity. Treat them as individuals and expand ur horizons. You said your dad is being racist, but so are you......by making such a comment about 'all' Indian men.

Answer 3

Of course you are not over-reacting and BRAVO to you for being the way you are.  Of course you will have a lot of conflict with parents like your dad but you have evolved beyond his prehistoric character and you are far more intelligent than thos cat callers who were forced to hang out with.  

Answer 4

It just comes from being such a closed cultural society for so long. It sounds like you are developing into a fine individual, don't let the expectations and actions of others effect you. My wife is from Sri Lanka and I was an outcast because I am White. Having to endure the torment from family was a terrible thing to bear for a number of years. We got over it and lived our lives doing what is best for us but with as much respect as possible for our parents.It took quite a long time for acceptance but it finally came and our family relationship is great. Sometime parents feel that traditions should be observed because they don't want to accept that life changes and so do peoples perceptions. Your friends are just being idiots like most all races and guys that get together, except that they are from Indian and are doing what alltheir Indian friends do.