Why are Punjabi men cheating American women to get citizenship?

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I have a question for foreign people who use someone to come abroad?

Do you ever think about what your doing to someone ?do you ever think how much harm,pain and suffering your selfish deed is causing an innocent person who will live with a bleeding heart for life???

I am a 28 yr old woman and when I was 21 I married a man from India I even lived with his whole family for a year loving them,and bonding with them.He never treat me right,he abused me mentally,and physically,but because I was young,stupid and blindly in love I wouldnt leave him.I brought him over to USA in 2003,he stayed with my family and sometimes in other states,while we struggled to get him a good job,all the while I poured my heart and soul into him,even changing my religion and loosing my identity,I leared to cook Indian food,learned to speak the language,and I gave and gave and gave of my heart.I fell ill with a serious illness,during this time he got his citizenship.Things started to decline rapidly after that,he never came home,was cold,could never look into my eyes,

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he abused me verbally,name calling,beat me up etc..I was so weak physically and emotionally I was about to have a pyschological break.I suffered mercilouslly.....

Then he divorced me,and I had to move in with my sick mom.Soon after he divorced me I found out his family already had a girl lined up for him to marry an Indian girl,he was flying to India to marry her...THEY HAD USED ME......AND now im ill...BECAUSE OF MY SACRAFICE HE IS LIVING OFF THE FAT OF THE LAND,AND IM IN MY BED unable to work,maybe it would have been more compassionate of him to just kill me....

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6 YRS OF MY LIFE ARE GONE! 6 YRS WHEN I WAS HEALTHY AND NOW IM SICK WHO WILL LOVE ME NOW????/AND U HAVE IT ALL,U HAVE A GOOD JOB,UR HEALTH,AND NOW UR GETTING MARRIED........HOW COULD U DO THIS TO ME.?????HOW CAN ANYONE BE SO CRUEL......UR A CRUEL b*****d

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Thank you so much for sharing this. If it wasn't for you, I would've made the same mistake. Thank you so very much. It's opened up my eyes. I'm also with a young Punjabi man, I'm only 18 years old and he is 21.  He's in Australia on a student visa which expires in june. Things were going great until recenlty he asked me if I would help him so he wouldn't be sent back to India. He said I'd have to marry him. Honestly, I was absolutley scared because I heard stories about men and women only marrying citizens for the wrong reasons. I told him how I felt about it and how I didn't want him using me and he told me that he loves me, told me I had nothing to worry about and tells me the sort of things I want to hear, which I found very awkward. I don't want to make a mistake likes this one. I don't think I'd be able to cope with the heartache. Once again thank you.