Why are children so good to have?

Question

My boyfriend doesn't want kids, and he says if I can convince him otherwise, he'll think about it. So I need all of your opinions on why children/babies/toddlers are so good to have?

Answer 1

You got a good man there. It would be silly to end the relationship over something that's not important.

I don't think children are good to have at all. Kids are a huge expense and responsibility.

Kids would ruin anyone. Which is why I'm staying childfree forever and would be getting a vasectomy whenever I can.

Answer 2

You won the lotto with him.  What is the problem?  Not having children is the best thing you can do for your future.  I can't think of anything at all good about having them.

Answer 3

you should not have children by this boyfriend, his mind is already made up. and if you do in the end he is going to feel like you tricked him into it. there are plenty of reasons to have children both good and bad. good reasons are so you can have someone to love, to strengthen an already strong bond, (not to save a relationship though, that one almost always backfires), if your are creative having children gives you someone who appreciates makebelieve, you can write your own fairytales for them they're not critics, children see the world through innocent eyes, they can help you see the good in it. of course they can also annoy the h**l out of you, don't forget that one.

don't forget that before deciding to have children you should make sure your budget can handle the sudden change and that you are capable of giving up most of your life to the nurturing of another human. good luck.

Answer 4

I see no reason to have children...and I certainly hope you don't plan oopsing him either..

but anyways...the only good thing that I can think of about children is that it MIGHT make the rest of your family happy..

but to me, children would make me a very miserable person.

that's why at 22 I chose to get a vasectomy!

Answer 5

Cause people give you stuff.

Answer 6

Children are your legacy ... when you are old and your husband/partner dies and all your friends are gone or dead your children will be there to care for you ... well depening on what type of parent you were ...

My ex boyfriend didnt want children and threatened me telling me if I ever got pregnant after we get married he would "kick it out of me"

I was sooo depressed because I wanted to be a mother at some point in my life ... I dumped him and it was the best choice I ever made ...

My husband is soooo wonderful!! he is sooo supportive and calls me his hero because he is amazed that I am carrying his son :)

Good luck ... Think about your choices ... children are amazing!! :) even though pregnancy is difficult ...  

Answer 7

please do not have a baby at 17 if you are already preganant keep the baby, obortions are murder, there are many people out there that can't have children so if you need to give it up for adoption out there that c but do not try for one at this age

Answer 8

It's not a debate of pros and cons, it's just a feeling. If you both feel in your heart you are ready, that is the right time. For some people the right time is age 20. For some people the right time is age 40. For some people the right time is never. All these options are fine and nothing wrong with anyone.

Don't have kids with a man who isn't sure. This is unfair to everyone, especially the child.

Suggestion: Why don't you and your boyfriend spend time with a baby? It is fun and he might really enjoy it. Also you will both see the work involved.

Best wishes.

Answer 9

More people to love and love you back. The joy of parenthood cannot be described with words; many had trodden before you and found that joy.  

Answer 10

it might make him marry you?

Answer 11

If it takes convincing him to have a child(ren), than it's time for you to go.  First off, are you married?   If if you are and person doesn't want a child, it's likely will be hard to raise an unwanted child.  If your testing the water, and not married, chances are he might not be around by the time the baby arrive.   Not to sound harsh.   How do you know if he'll stick to his words even if he sees the reason.   If someone made up their mind about it, than there nothing you can do.  I wouldn't want to bring a child into the world that their father never wanted them in the first place.  It's a norm now a day with so many single moms, of offense to the divorce parents.