Why are feminists so obsessed with men doing their "fair share" of housework?

Question

Why aren't they as concerned with women doing their fair share of chasing off burglars in the middle of the night, fixing blocked toilets, shovelling snow, mowing lawns, putting up shelves, burying the dog etc.?

Answer 1

you are and lazy moron. .

Answer 2

Hope the dog was dead before you did that. It's cos it's just another word for spoilt b*****d who wants their own way all the time and if they don't it's sexist.

Answer 3

Well, the idea is that if both are working full-time, then both should be sharing in the housework.

Things like chasing off burglars, burying dogs, unblocking toilets ect are not things that need to be done very often, whereas the business of cleaning up, cooking, washing etc is pretty much an ongoing thing.

However, it is somewhat surprising that this seems to be an issue in so many  households, given that Betty Friedan claimed that housework was so easy it could be done in an hour or so, and therefore women ought to be able to easily have a career and do the housework without any masculine help.

For some mysterious reason, it doesn't seem to have worked out that way, and I'm not sure why.  Women seem to be finding it harder to do both than Ms Friedan thought they should.  Something has gone wrong somewhere, but I am not sure what it is.

Answer 4

I certainly do my fair share of all those 'manly' things!  Just last week we had an intruder on our property.  I didn't chase him off, though - I made sure he didn't leave until the police came and arrested him.  I have done all the other things on your list except burying the dog, since we don't have one.  

I do all these things *because* I am a feminist.

I think you're angry at the wrong people.  Feminists generally accept their responsibilities for all kinds of household tasks.

Answer 5

that's life,women want us to learn how to clean,how to cook and other things,but they are to lazy to learn how to fix their own cars because they believe in "men's work but they don't believe in "women's work"

I know,it makes me sick too.

Answer 6

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Well, the underlaying reason I would say... Is people are sheep and its easier to conform or adhere to traditional gender roles/expectations, cause people in general are gimps. Masculinist society and male ideologies have taught that to no end. (the workworld is an exception, cause money is necessary for survival, and womyn chase off burglars when men aren't around...)

I'm starting my plan to become a mass murderer... who kills with my tongue...

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Answer 7

You fix a blocked toilet once a month, maybe.

You hovel snow about 30 times a year.

Mow the lawn about the same amount.

Chase of burglars once in a lifetime, maybe.

Put up shelves once every 2-5 years.

Bury the dog every 13 years.

Housework is EVERYDAY.

Answer 8

Problem is, it is the women that decide, what needs doing, how it should be done, who should do it, when it should be done, whether it has been done correctly.

Also, in my experience, militant feminists tend to do less housework than the average male, because they are too busy knocking men for not doing it. It is just theory to them.

Answer 9

Because they are feminists. That's what feminists do. obsess about how lazy men are and how they are better. when really men and women are equal.

But remember that only a small minority of women are feminists and a lot of people describe feminists as "women who have nothing better to do".

Answer 10

Because they want us to do the domestic labor but then they play the weak little woman card when we send them outside with a shovel. Its because they are lazy, self absorbed and feel unduly entitled.

Answer 11

Because they need to do their fair share. Hence the term "Fair share."

In our marriage, we both do dishes and when we HAD a lawn (we moved to the beach) I would mow the front yard and he'd mow the back. Whoever blocked the toilet fixes it. It hasn't snowed in years. Chasing off burglars is not a nightly event. It wasn't even a one time event. I like doing laundry do I do that. He likes to cook so he does that. This isn't to say I can't make a london broil or chili one day if he's not in the mood or he won't toss in a load of colors if I have a migraine. It's called EQUALITY. When we paint a room, we both do it- edging and all. When we furnish the house, we both carried. When we moved, we both carried. I'm not a puny whining stick figure girl.

Answer 12

How ignorant do you want to be? They are, but the point is a lot more women are willing to do those things, and do do those things than men are willing to do housework. I know some do, but I recon percentages-wise, there are more women willing to do 'mens' chores than men willing to do 'womens' chores.

Answer 13

I can kill bugs and my mom can do maintenance.

Answer 14

As long as the housework in total is split evenly, each spouse can do whichever chores they want. My dad knows full well that if my mom tried any of this, we'd have one ugly lawn.

Answer 15

They need to mind their own business.  I think it's none of their business what chores somebody else's husband does.

Answer 16

why are you mentioning the word feminist? Surely we don;'t need a label for being equal now, isnt it what everyone assumes now?

What you're asking Its called having an equal share of the work.  just the same if you were sharing with a friend or relative, you would expect them to do the work too. Or do you think the proper way would be let the female do it all?  Stop being so f**ing lazy.

Answer 17

i grew up in a house where my parents always argued, the description you gave is one of my foster mother(except she never did any housework or anything),i think when you move in  with anyone (a female with another female male and female) in any realtionship you should check how houseproud you are. I live with my husband and we are both young, we never argue and have never discussed housework, sometimes i come home and our house is a mess with plates and i will clean them sometimes he comes home and i've left make-up and clothes all over the bedroom and he will clean them, sometimes we both look at each other and agree to tackle one part each,why argue over something so silly?its nothing to do with womens rights atall,its in your house!its a private matter.

when we first got together he would take all my dirty clothes away and bring them back to me clean and ironed, i was realy depressed at the time, and couldnt cope, he realy is an amazing guy

Answer 18

You make a good point. There are roles that men need to take on and roles that women equally have to take on. Your point about unblocking sinks and chasing of burglars is good and it's one of the many roles that the male takes on.

Answer 19

why should men do any house work beyond what is totally necessary, 'JUST DON'T DO IT'....

if my woman gets a kick out of it, and chatting about it, i say let her have fun, who am i to stop her?



when i say leave it and sit down, she says she cant do that, so i laugh and leave her to it....

its simple, you all go have fun, its your choice, good for you!!

Answer 20

Personally don't look on housework as an obsession.  BUT if co habiting with another person be they male or female I would not be happy if I had to do more than I felt was fair.  Fair....such an emotive word and can cause all manner of discord in life.....

SO discuss with the co habiter and work out a fair solution.  Not  forgetting who might chase the burglar or bury the dog......but don't have one ..........but it needs to go on the list anyways cos you said so.!

Answer 21

Those things like fixing the toilet , mowing the lawn do come under housework. As for fighting off burglars, it's not worth doing. He may plan to kill or rape you but if you bruise him slightly you'll be the one ending up going to prison.

Answer 22

boy,see what you just caused i am sure your lazy self will get a few opened complaints....,women i know are the only ones doing it anyway...as well as the homework for to kids,cooking,cleaning,running errants for the food or too get your clothes to wear for your lazy butts,as well do it for her!.giving kids baths changing them if they aren't ready to potty train or even,potty training. cook, etc.....more of the men like to complain.but then sit and watch us do it all alone,so he can just prop up his feet...so if you think there is a time clock on a marriage, or taking care of the kids..maybe she too should clock and go out forawhile while she was into middle of things you need help in....out "when your hungry",or need clean clothes etc, s*x!,what ever the women s job you say it is......so if your good at House cleaning  help without a complaint,try it that helps us think your not such a big baby to have to mother

if you so faster at it do it by yourself..but if it is sloppy.your own job would get rid of you for a slack of good work!!!!,plus clean means clean!!! not half *** clear up portions.....

Answer 23

Um, I do it if it needs doing and my partner would do the same. I normally do fix the toilet and do the gardening and anything that needs assembling, as well as the laundry, dishes etc. I just expect that he will do the same if it needs to be done. Just as I wouldn't sit and leave a job to him if I can do it, he wouldn't leave one for me.

As for burglars...really? And how often do you do that then?