Why are looks so important? How is "looks" better than a sweet and nice personality?

Question

I know we all want a good looking partner. but I also know that not everybody are hot, or cute or s**y!

Not everybody is perfect?

However, looks don't define a person's heart.

There are a lot of sweet people, who don't look so good...while there are very attractive and hot people who are the devils.

I am not ranting, or neither I am saying that every good looking people are bad...but still, this is a serious issue.

It doesn't feel so good either if people avoid you just because you are not so good looking, or just block you in the messenger because you don't look so good.

I want to know why are looks given more importance than a person's character.

Not every hot and great looking person will look so good when they become 150 year old.

But a nice person will remain nice even if they become a 1000 year old.

You get the point.

By the way, my question is based on this other question:

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AoMt3QhHUscXq0t5k713p1Hty6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20080824115035AAWWSOL&show=7#profile-info-E5iFR6BJaa

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Answer 1

Looks aren't really important not to people who appreciate what is inside. Personally all my partners have been attractive to me in some way or another but they were not selected purely for their looks.

Really true beauty is in the eye of the beholder. For some that can be entirely whats outside, for others its the personality that makes a person beautiful.

Answer 2

honey I could not agree with you more.  

Answer 3

Wow, i was about to ask the same quesion. Yeah, i concur with ya, i had a friend, he wasn' that attractive but he's my best friend and i love him so much. He's got a great personallity. And guess what, i was infatuated with this goddamn hot dude but he turned out to be an As's hole and broke my heart and i held a grudge against him for years. You're absolutely right. Good luck.

Answer 4

Personally, I care mainly about a person's soul and personality. That's what is important.

Physical attraction is important in a relationship, granted, but that doesn't mean one must be mean and cannot be friends with a person simply because they don't have their face plastered in a magazine.

Honestly I hate judging people by looks. I'm not going to pretend I'm innocent and say that I don't slip up once and while, but for the most part, I could care less. It is what is on the INSIDE that counts.

And it goes both ways, really. Sometimes people are afraid to talk to me or don't think I'm intelligent because I have a 'pretty face' - but I'm more than that. We owe it to one another to not take things at face value, but rather get to know each other for who they truly are.

Answer 5

tell me abt it, i wish i looked like the guy in my avatar kissing the hot girl but nahhh i look like c**p hahaha

Answer 6

Marriage gets a low opinion from people nowadays.I feel the main reason for this is of course is the divorce rate.A large reason that the rate is so high is because people marry each other with too much emphasis on looks.It does not make for long term happiness and will never make a marriage work.Never.

Answer 7

Looks aren't more important.

People just think and assume they are - and they miss the point if they choose based on looks.

Answer 8

Looks are extremely important in the animal world.   After all, we are animals.  It is how one looks that attracts one to another.  It is part of nature.  Don't you watch the Discovery Channel?  When it comes to us humans, it's pretty much the same for making initial contact.  Those of us who are 'beauty challenged' need to compensate with our great personality.  As you grow a little older, Dan, you will find that looks are totally immaterial.  It's no fun to be constantly  mistaken for Brad Pitt.

Luv Les

EDIT:   Are you inferring that beautiful people are cheaters and have  a horrible personality, and that ugly people have great personalities and are faithful?  Let's not tar everyone with the same brush here, eh?  We often read in this section, "Let's not categorize people".

Answer 9

I have a boyfriend that is not the best looking thing ever but his personality is so amazing, I love him so much :-)

I don't go for looks, I go for personalities because your right, in the long run they will look ugly when they are old.

<3

-Keele

Answer 10

i personally love a person with  little perfect imperfections.lol. i love the personality of the person. if a person can manage to steal my heart, i dont really care how that person looks.

but i get what you mean. not all people care about the beauty of the person on the inside, even though we all know beauty on the outside is only skin deep.

Answer 11

Its all part of the theory of evolution, better looks = good health and higher survival rates. It also means the person has better genes.

Answer 12

"I believe that's more of an emotional love than a sexual love. I've found myself in 'love' with someone's personality rather than them physically, however, I don't personally feel that's real love. To me, love is more of 'loving' them physically, emotionally, and in any other way you can love someone... That's why I say I've only loved twice, when I have emotionally loved many times, and physically/sexually loved many other times." -- My previous answer on a roughly similar question...

Imperfections make the person. Irregularities are what attract us to them. Wanting everyone to be "perfect" or exactly the same, there'd be no such thing as love.

I'm in love right now with someone despite MANY things that I normally don't like. Loving him is a part of all of these things.

On the topic of cheaters: I see that more as a reason of lack of communication and honesty. My personal stance: If I can be completely honest with you about anything & everything, especially the way I feel, then I can safely say that I love you. I love you enough to know and trust that no matter how open I am with you, that you will not hold any of it against me.

Love is about sharing yourself with the person you love, and hoping that it's reciprocated.