Why are males so insecure???

Question

I'm sick of it. My last serious relationship, he was constantly saying ''are you going to break up with me....'' and this is a 30 year old man who works infront of a camera on live TV, wheres the confidence?

Now last night I went on a date with a 29, almost 30 year old, (I am 25) and he kept saying he feels like he dragged me out...although I kept saying what're you talking about?? How am I acting that way? I really don't think I was acting like I got dragged to hang out.... and he sent me a text message earlier saying he won't bother me tonight....what the f*ck?? Seriously? whats with the insecurity guys, don't you know women hate that? grr...

Answer 1

Your probably giving off vibes that men interpret as negative. You condemn men in general without reviewing your own behavior. Perhaps you think your too good for any man and treat them as totally inferior beings. Lighten up sister!  

Answer 2

I'm sorry about that hun.

You could be intimidating. (HOT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!) But hey it's okay. Some guys find extremely attractive girls to be a little bit of (OMG! I hope I'm not coming off strong or eager) the insecurity will pass with time, but sometimes it doesn't he could be jealous especially if you are a busy women heavey schedule or go on a lot of dates, or get a lot of looks or stares. Who knows why these guys do it, to each his own.

Answer 3

they are trying to get you to flirt with them, well at least most of the time, if not then they are just think you are too good for them.

Answer 4

yeah tell me about.my bf thinks i'm dating another guy,i'm not.when a guy looks at me when i'm with him he punches him cuz he thinks i'm dating him.when i'm out he will be like where were u?who were u with?r u cheating on me? see what i have to put up with.

Answer 5

Most male are insecure because they don't like rejection and that allow them to feel insecure about themselves.

Answer 6

omg im not 25 yet but im gonna be afraid to date at that age!

lmao

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Answer 7

haha thanks for the advice. i don't think i would be like that because if you wanted to break up with me i'd be like whatever... find the next one

Answer 8

because most men realize that women hold the power. and its immasculating. a woman can have just about anyone she wants. men don't have that much power and we realize that you could just up and leave at any moment and easily move on. it really sucks for us actually. if you expect men to make such a big change about themselves for you then maybe you should be willing to make a change about yourself. i'm not saying that you should suddenly become a stepford wife or anything, but it's most likely that these men find you intimidating for some reason. so figure out what it is and attempt to curb it. otherwise the only man you're gonna find is going to be a male w***e who doesnt care if you're going to stay with him or not..or a self absorbed prick who either doesnt care for you or doesnt know how to show it.

Answer 9

You're giving off the wrong vibes.Guys feel you're not interested in hanging out with them.So they feel they are a burden to you,try asking some one out yourself.Try being a guy once you girls think it is soo easy but trust me it ain't.

Answer 10

You just need to get with some more confident men.

Answer 11

Because some men may have been hurt in their past to be like that.

Answer 12

Women are so confident these days they have sucked it right out of men.To bad.You sound like a fun chick.I hope you can find someone with a backbone.

Answer 13

I'm not going to say we aren't. I just don't think that is the real issue here. I see a pattern. The first guy kept thinking you were about to dump him. His insecurities kicked in when he felt you no longer wanted to be with him. The second guy got the same feeling when he was with you. Now he wants to cancel plans because it's not fun dragging you around. I don't know if you act, glum or bitchy, or what, but something is making these guys think you're unhappy. I like to tell people, If you act like your having fun people who want to have fun will be attracted to you. I can't say what the problem is given the information that I have. I can say these guys are feeling unwanted, that's what makes them insecure.

Answer 14

Those guys are a little too insecure. I don't know if it would really be considered insecure, but when I was with my ex, I made sure she was comfortable every time we cuddled and I only asked if she enjoyed herself on our first date. I just opted to give her attention.

In any case, some guys are just afraid of being rejected because having a girl makes them feel confident I suppose. Either way you look at it, you don't want an all round douche bag for a boyfriend either. So both extremes are pretty bad. You need that balance where a guy trusts you enough that you enjoy his company and is considerate enough to ask you if something is wrong.

Answer 15

Insecurity comes from both men and women.What you must try to understand is that some people have been wounded in relationships before and are just being a little more carefully when dating again.If they are being too insecure in certain areas,let them know.Usually,the person will try to improve their character for your sake and theirs.

Answer 16

Um dont pick the apple with a worm hole in it...

seriously, maybe because your dating these older guys they have been through a lot of rejection and therefore are scared of a pretty woman...try some around your age i guarantee you will see a difference in confidence, maybe they may even get you feeling a little ''insecure''

Answer 17

they take you serious, and afraid that you'll leave them.... so they really care about you and the relationship.

Answer 18

see girls have accecories to make them look better. males dont have makeup or anything to help them be more confident. Males are just more immature and develop later. mentally...

Answer 19

Insecure over a subordinate female? Please woman.

Answer 20

wow

guys are *****

that why

NO

it might be you are reallly pretty and they are scared ya know

Answer 21

wow.. u want to see confidence? check me out... i take care of u for sure