Why are men increasingly refraining from marriage?

Question

http://news.yahoo.com/s/nm/20080602/lf_nm_life/books_bachelors_dc;_ylt=AkqAbY9CWnFw2iOCnsaMvqsDW7oF

Answer 1

It's funny how men who avoid marriage are accused of being "not ready for commitment" etc.

But have you ever thought the reason a lot of men avoid marriage is not because they are selfish and don't want to marry, it's because their afraid of marrying the WRONG person just as the article suggest.

Statistics show that the majority of divorces are initiated by women and in most of those cases she gets everything and he loses everything. So why are they so surprised by the numbers of men who avoid marriage?

Answer 2

http://marriage.rutgers.edu/Publications...

Answer 3

There are many reasons why. Mainly because they enjoy being single more than taking the chance, like I did, of being stuck, for a little while, in a bad marriage, which I did.

Answer 4

Couldn't it be that no women wanted to marry those men and instead of just admitting that they were unwanted they decided to say that they are refraining for marriage to make themselves feel better.

Answer 5

Wait till you're 50-all of the men I know are desperate to find a girlfriend-let alone a wife. The women my age don't care if they marry or not and just want a boyfriend-and many don't want a boyfriend who lives in either. When I was dating a couple of years ago--men my age were desperate to get married..I had marriage proposals from people I had never met (ugh). I'm not interested in marrying again-even though I'm crazy about my boyfriend. Did that-lost the farm-not doing it again. I hate institutions..they're so confining. lol

Answer 6

Because the article says so. :)

They don't want to divorce. Like Carrie said in S&TC, "I don't want to say forever when what I mean is, 'for the foreseeable future'."

Answer 7

Because of the fact that women get just about everything when the marriage fails. Every other marriage fails. Why even bother? Marriage is a feminine hustle.

Anybody that quotes S&TC should stick their head in an oven when it is at about 450 degrees fahrenheit.

Answer 8

Because a lot of women are crazy feminist. lol!

Answer 9

Apologia from an admitted selfish womanizer whose only regret is that women are leery of him, because what he wants is to continue trolling among women looking for a mate without ever having to become one.

Answer 10

Why buy the cow when you get the milk for free and why settle for a pig for a little sausage?

both men and women are increasingly refraining from marriage.  Not just men.

Answer 11

For the same reasons more women are refraining from marriage. They have other choices in their lives and those don't include marriage. Marriage is not for everyone.

Answer 12

- The divorce rate in the USA is about 50% (1 in 2)

- Women intitate about 70% of the divorces

- The divorce courts (family courts) are extremely biased against men.

- Men generally (90%+) get financially penalized in divorce court.

- Courts issue unfair child support orders, which sometimes leave men with nothing to live on

- Courts increasing believe false domestic violence, abuse, and child abuse accusations against men

- Men are treated as criminals in family courts and have to prove their innocence.

- Laws like the Violence Against Women Act (VAWA) make it so a woman can get a man arrested and thrown out of his own house with a mere accusation of abuse (even if no violence or abuse has occured). He is guilty until he proves himself innocent.

- Women can cheat on their husbands and not get penalized for it.

- Risk for paternity fraud. True numbers for paternity fraud are unknown (but the bottom number is around 10% of fathers are raising children that are not theirs)

With such liability, why would a man in America want to get married?

Answer 13

because it's no longer legal for them to force it on their wives..? lol jk.. idk :\

Answer 14

Both men and women seem to be shying away from marriage these days, or at least waiting longer before they do get married.

I don't think it's necessarily a bad thing -- most of my friends' parents got divorced, but their own marriages are really strong, because they waited until they

1) were sure they were committing to the right person and 2) were old (read: mature) enough to enter into the institution with realistic expectations.

Maybe a generation of "children of divorce" produced a subsequent generation of successful marriages.

That would be nice.

Answer 15

Doesn't the article explain it pretty well?

Do you need someone to explain the article to you?

Answer 16

Money.

I wish I could be more eloquent but women are the winners in court.

Men are afraid if it wont work they can get taken to the cleaners.

Answer 17

Marriage is the only war where you sleep with the enemy.

"By all means marry. If you get a good wife you will become happy, and if you get a bad one you will become a philosopher."- Socrates (BC 469-BC 399) Greek philosopher of Athens.

Answer 18

I think people in general (maybe men in particular) don't see marriage as being necessary anymore. So instead of actively looking for someone to marry, they just live... and maybe get married if they happen to find the right person.

Which is partly what the article said anyway.