Why are men the way they are?

Question

I am just getting over an intense anger towards men, because after much study and observation I find that most are much more manipulative and greedy than most women. They are one the whole less compassionate and downright cold than women. I don't want to think this way about men. It's just hard not to when you see the lack of virtue (in the completely secular sense) that they usually demonstrate. Like Boccaccio wrote, "there are many men beautiful in body, but enemies of virtue." Why do they not respect themselves more??? ah I do not understand!!!!! Explain this to me???

Answer 1

The same reason as to why women are the way they are.  It has much to do with how we're raised.  Girls are, because of society, protected by their parents - whereas boys are told to "suck it up".  

Ideally, this makes the boy "stronger" as he grows into a man.  Yet, the girl, however, will likely grow to become more sensitive than men.  Parents are normally okay with this as, up until recently, the long-standing belief of our culture has been that a woman doesn't need to grow "strong" but should be fair and delicate.  She won't need to grow to become strong and independent because she'll have a man to protect her.

Another thing to consider is how we're raised normally affects our opinions of others moreso than just ourselves.  Growing up in a more strict environment tends to make one less sympathetic to the plight of others.  This is why many of the religious right come off as cold and judgmental when it comes to the sins of others.  

I think the same applies with boys as sympathy wasn't always granted to them growing up.  On the other hand, girls tend to be more spoiled than boys and so that is why girls are normally so sensitive.

Also, much of your experience with men has much to do with it being specifically YOUR personal experience.  I don't know you personally, but I think it might have to do with your mentality.  You'll probably have to change your state of mind in order to get along with men, unless you plan to become a L*****n anytime soon.

Answer 2

I must answer you in the same manner I answered the original post before:

"Rant".

Answer 3

need of respect and independence

Answer 4

Hm, yes because some men are like this now ALL men are like this???

Although I do agree that men can be just as manipulative as women. There was a question posted here earlier about men 'taming' women. People didn't seem to recognise that this is as much a form of manipulation as some things that women do.

Also when it comes to hormones. Due to testosterone men (and especially young men) can be extremely emotional. Yet because these emotions often take the form of anger and the urge to take stupid risks (e.g. throw yourself off a cliff into shallow water, drink and drive) they are not classed as being 'emotional'.

Answer 5

Edit

Wow. There is just no point in disputing such strong evidence. After all 1 000 000 feminist studies can't be wrong.

Answer 6

"Most men are,"how dare you. You know most men do you. Just because you're female doesn't mean you can't be a sexist idiot too, grow up.

Answer 7

some men are pigs ie my ex

and

some men are awesome and will sweep you off your feet and love you and worship you ie my boyfriend now

you just have to wait till the right one comes along