Why are military men so controlling?

Question

The military men I know are control freaks and really seem to hate women. Is this something the military does to them or is it just that people with that personality type tend to join?

Answer 1

Not all military guys are controlling. My boyfriend knows that I have my own life, plans, and schedule and if it doesn't match up perfectly with his he doesn't throw a fit or get upset. We just spend the time we have together. When we are together we both choose what we want to do, where we want to go, etc.  

Answer 2

that might explain the bad traits of John Mccain ty for enlightening me today

Answer 3

I'm marrying one, and it's universally accepted that I'm tougher than he is. So much for your theory.

Answer 4

Not all are control freaks.... my fiance has become more of one though.... I attribute it to his deployment- he has no control there- no control really in the states- he does what hes told no questions asked... Its not a "hating women" thing- its a hard thing to do because not many women can handle what it means to be in the army (even if they are just civilians) I myself still struggle with it- Military doesn't "do it" to them- but they have to become "harder" to prepare them for the dangers they will face

Answer 5

Mine is the opposite of a control freak!  After making decisions all day and telling people what to do, he prefers to let me make the decisions.

And most of the guys I know are not like that at all.  You're hanging out with the wrong guys!

Old time military... yeah, those guys definitely!  My dad still tries to be controlling.  But modern military?  Nah......

Oh, and the being late thing... oh yeah!!  That will get you!  It is EXTREMELY important to show up to places on time and/or early.  Their philosophy... if  you aren't early, you're late!   That's just common sense and courtesy to be on time.  

Answer 6

Are you serious? You are going to make that kind of blanket statement about all military men? I bet you consider yourself tolerant and follow all those liberal mantras. I don't know how many military men you know but I am a military man (10 years in the Marines) and i have met some of the best fathers, husbands, sons, and brothers in the US Armed forces. The military does teach discipline and good order which go against the political correct flow of this country, so I guess we get the label of being archaic and old-fashioned but I wear that hat proudly.

Sincerely,

I love my wife and have never tried to control her...

Answer 7

I know that around 10-percent are controlling men, but they aren't taught this in the military or makes them that way.  Actually, I think it is the stereotypical cliché that women preceive from TV and fictionized books.  So when the man may ask or request something, they automatically think that this military man is demanding me.  Or when a woman may had some other plans but is naive and in constricts his plans and changes it, the woman will think he is controlling.  Or in one case where I asked this female to dance while in bar, she was trying to lead me, but I prevented by leading her.  She accused me of trying to be a control freak, when in fact I would have to think backwards and restep just to cater her.  Or when my ex wouldn't pick up around the house, I was controllling her when I told her to clean to avoid getting charged by the UCMJ.  Women are brain-washed to think that ALL military men are controlling so when the man may do something, they have that automated thought in fact it is the opposite, I think women are more controlling.  I never got to choose my evening meals, never had the say-so about furniture arrangements.  She constantly wanted to argue.  She would have a fuss everytime I went out, which wasn't much and she would follow me to see where I go.  Get mad when I was being friendly to another females casually, not intimately.  Just because sometimes a man disagrees or already had other plans, its called controlling.  Actually my ex was over-controlling.  After certain incident, I was reluctant to divorce her.  Thank God!  

Answer 8

I happen to be that sort of person, and I'm currently enlisting in the Army. I really don't think that the Army makes you that way from what I have seen  , but it does have an allure for guys like us.

Answer 9

The generality of your question is very offensive, I do regret you have encountered a few men who suffer from control issues, however to cover all of us with your blanket observation is a grave injustice!

Answer 10

i have been married to my military man for 15 years,,,he is NOT controlling,,nor has he ever been.  i have met and am friends with LOTS of military men (and their families),,,and i have yet to meet a controlling one.  maybe it is the company you keep,,,not their jobs.

Answer 11

Sooo.. you meet a couple people in the military, you find them to be  controlling (which you don't explain.  How were they controlling?  What behaviors were they demonstrating?  Why do you think they hate women?)  and you've decided all military men are controlling.

Wow.  Try NOT judging an entire group of people based on your own limited experience.  

I'm a Marine Corps Mom, and I will tell you I've seen some Marines cut loose and relax around one another in ways not unlike a frat party going wild.  I've also experienced those same Marines calling me "Ma'am," opening doors and giving me more respect than I would ever get from a group of 23 year old college students.  Most I've met have been young gentlemen, just figuring out what it means to be a young gentleman.  Were some of them jerks?  You bet... just like those found in every population.  

Answer 12

You know, I bet you are "an enlightened liberal also" nice generalization.    

Answer 13

They aren't controling. They manage their time with you so it seems they are controling. They also DON'T hate women...trust me on this one...

the reason i say "they manage their time" is because they don't have much to spend with their S.O's...so, to you, when he says "Ok, we ARE going to have dinner at 7:00 pm, and if your not there...tough" that really means this "I get off at work at 5:00pm...gives me about an hour to get cleaned up, i have to deal with this solider, clean up a little bit...which puts me at about 6:30...30 minutes travel time puts me at 7, i can stay with her for about 2-3 hours, race home and be in bed by 11 and ready for pt in the morning by 6 am. ok...break"

trust me...time managment is a HUGE thing. And if he has more rank, it gets worse.

as for hating women...you're just dating the wrong guys. there are meat heads out there that...like civilan men, and just pigs. And if we chose to stay wiht them...its our fault.  

Answer 14

Yea, the military makes hus hate people like you. Maybe your ignorance makes us hate women like you!