Why are most females so dependent on a man?

Question

I find this as a part of weakness....my friends say that their man should be able to provide for them whenever they are together..one friend gets her rent paid my her boyfriend of 7 months, the other quit her job so that she can move in with her man and he promised to give her money whenever she needs it..... and the other is demanding that her man get a better job so that she doesn't have to work..are you freaking kidding me!.....

I am just like my mother..i don't care if I have a man..ima do what i wanna do....my mother makes more money then my father and my mother NEVER asked for a dime from my father unless it had to do with paying the regular household bills that they split.......

So why are females so dependent on a man all the d**n time

Answer 1

i think its silly to as does my mother. my mum always said there is nothing to stop you being you own person and maintaining your identity as well as being a good mother and wife.

my mum is a part time nurse and has a high hourly rate here in England. I admire that she has helped many people as she has spent 28 years on the Cardiology unit and 10 years  movingaround the hospital.  She was and still is a brilliant mother and she didnt depend on anyone.

I would never stay at home indefinitely as my mum worked when we were at school so we never missed time with her. By my mum working my dad didnt have to do overtime and they have a good standard of living.

I want to do the same for my children to show them our family morals. Its what my family believe in and it works brilliantly for us.  

Answer 2

Sounds to me like you need to get some new friends.  I disagree that most women are dependent on a man - even amongst married couples, around 40% of wives outearn their husbands, and women are more likely to move out / live on their own at a younger age, which would suggest self-sufficiency.  Your friends sound like freeloaders!  :-)

Answer 3

It sounds like you have some trashy friends.

Most women are not like that.

I have no problem with a married woman becoming a SAHM, but having a boyfriend pay your way just because, you don't want to do it for yourself?  

That's selfish.  It also shows a lack of self respect.

Answer 4

You have s*x with them they should pay

Answer 5

That's not dependence, that's selfishness.

There's nothing wrong with depending on people you love if they also depend on you.

Answer 6

They are trained to be, to be rather blunt.  I would imagine if you looked at their parents arrangement you would find something very close to how they are acting today.  Secondly, the media tells them that they will never have the same chances in the business world that men do, the salary level will never be the same and then the dreaded glass ceiling.  

I never bought into it, but that doesn't mean lots of my female friends did not do that same thing that your friends are doing now.

Go your own way, get your education and then whatever you accomplish you will know that you did it, it wasn't just handed to you.

Answer 7

Those tricks are a minority. And more importantly, you're only speaking financially. More women prove to be more dependent EMOTIONALLY. Now, I'll admit, I don't have much talent right now, and it would be nice to have a man that has a bigger check in case my art pursuits fail. But who knows (I'm only 16 right now), either way I'll still keep a job. Some women feel old school and feel that the man should be the provider in all respects. You should have also said "most females", because technically, you're grouping us ALL, including yourself, into this ridiculous category.

Answer 8

I think it is only true in some cases that women depend on men, but too many women are brought up with low expectations as to what they can achieve in life.  Between films and media and, to a degree, education, girls and then women are taught that they should always give way to the man and he will do the job and she will look after the kids.  This is not always what happens but quite often.  Genetically speaking, the man is the provider and the woman is the caretaker.  Using intelligence we can change these roles or share them out.  My husband relies totally on me to keep the finances under control.  I rely on him to bring home the money because I am disabled and cannot easily work.  We share childcare equally along with household chores.  I do feel that some females are dependent simply because it's easier and it's expected.  The world is changing slowly though - give it time.

Answer 9

Because they don't want to work anymore and wants a free ride from their man. Iblockidiots is right. That is just selfish.

I am the same way. I grew up with my father and once I got a job I never asked him for money again.