Why are my parents always picking fights with me?

Question

I'm almost 20 years old, i finished high school, and have done a year of college. im planning on going back for the spring semester in january. i have a full time job, pay all of my bills myself, and for the most part im a good kid. but yet my parents seem to hate me or something. every little thing is a problem. they are never happy with me, and never have been. for example if im proud of something, like how i got into a good school, they just dont care, they'll make a comment like, "ok..and you think other kids dont get into good schools too?" they are always comparing me to other family members who seem "better" than me. they trash talk my boyfriend of 4 years just because his parents are divorced and he lives a hard life (jesus christ its not his fault!) they make fun of him since he cant afford college right now. i cant stand it and i think this is demeaning and dont know what to do about it.

Answer 1

Your parents seem like very miserable people! How stupid is it to bring down your child in order to make yourself feel better. Just tell your parents that you'll be living your own life from now on. If they ever decide to grow up, you'll accept them back into your life. They'll come around, trust me.

Answer 2

Parents are VERY weird!  I mean, my parents are proud of me but they can be a little off the wall sometimes too.  Instead of venting about it like this, sit down with them and point out what they do that hurts your feelings and ask them why they do it.  I'm sure you'll be surprised.  

Answer 3

Your parents don't hate you. It's possible that they're having a hard time accepting the fact that you're an independent and mature young woman who doesn't rely on them for every little thing anymore. Maybe they're not as involved with your life as they'd like to be. What you have to do is explain to them that, thanks to them (even if it isn't entirely true), you're doing pretty well for yourself. You're a hardworker and that you would like to them to be a little more thankful for the fact that you don't ask them for any financial support. Feeling unwanted or unneeded to your children can make you feel pretty bitter. It isn't right that they're taking it out on you. Just remind them how important they are to you but you really would like a little more support, considering how hard you've been working lately.

Good luck!