Why are my parents so unfair!?

Question

I recently turned 14 and I got quite a bad school report stating that I had misbehaved alot. so my parents have decided to punish me. My normal bedtime is 8.30 which i think is too early but because i've been bad a mum and dad have decided that for the summer they are lowering my bedtime to 6.30 pm!!!! i have to be in my pj's straight after dinner and inbed at 6.30 on the dot. even on weekends!!! they told me after summer is over not to have my bedtime back to it's normal time and they are putting my bedtime to 7.30, because they think my behavior is because due to lack of sleep. my little sister gets to go to bedlater then me and she is 12. she has gone up to 8.30. i feel like theere treating me like a little kid :(

do you think this is harsh?

Answer 1

Well yes and no, I think that it is a little to early to go to bed, but I'm sure that you know that u should have not misbehaved in school. Your parents want the best for you, and i guess this is their way of punishing you. Your best bet right now is to suck it up and just do it. Cause this is going to get you nowhere. Maybe they will see that you are doing it without complaints and change their minds. :)  

Answer 2

6:30pm in the summer in the UK is still daylight and a bit early, however, you could appeal the sentence and ask to be sent to bed at a later time but do extra studying/homework during the extra two hours or some form of community service instead. That way you are still being punished but you stay up later and learn something at the same time.  

Answer 3

Sure it sounds harsh to you - but try to take a stepback and accept it as a consequence of your actions.

Also going to bed that early does not mean you cab be forced to sleep - use the time - read - write - msn to friends, catch up on all that stuff. Am sure that if your parents found you tidying your room they would not force you into bed. Also - a bit radical - how about study?  Then maybe you can trade up when you return to school?

A may seem a bummer but try to make it work for you, at your age - on average you need about 9 hours of sleep on a regular basis. so maybe you can work around it by getting up earlier and using that to your advantage.  

Answer 4

well you could try to adhere to their rules first and be patient with them for a period of time..after that try asking them to loose their string around you

Answer 5

Well they were obviously not expecting bad results from you. therefore it is only fair that they punish you. Utilise this time to do some constructive reading rather than sulk. you will notice the difference yourself :)

Answer 6

I don't think it's the right way for them to deal with it, they are being unfair and giving you every reason to build up resentment that might never go away  I'd have hated to go to bed right after dinner, and seriously resented having my little sister stay up later - it I had one that is. especially through the summer when the evenings are light and everyone is out and about during the evenings. but hey, I'm not in their shoes.

Maybe you could be the adult and talk to them about why your behaviour and school report was bad, and what else could be done about it. Can you think of a likely reason and solution for the problem?   If you show that you can be mature about things then maybe they'll relent a bit, even if it's just at weekends.

Answer 7

It sounds harsh to you because you're the victim, but your parents are just doing what's best for you.