Why are parents so overprotective of daughters and not so much sons when it comes to s*x?

Question

You always see it on tv of the father being sooo protective of his daughter when it comes to boys. but if theyre son gets a girlfriend its whatever. no big deal...and i know its tv...but it also happens in real life too. as a sister to 3 older brothers my parents are way strict with me were as my brothers can have their girlfriends spend the night in their rooms? wtf? lol anyways...why? i know its mainly because girls are the ones that actually get pregnant...but they cant get pregnant unless there is a guy involved...and if your son is going off having s*x with some girl and she gets pregnant then what? its just as much of the sons responsiblity if a girl gets pregnant. idk. i just think that its totally unfair!

Answer 1

I know what you mean. My mom and daddy have 6 girls and 1 boy....Well all of us girls were not allowed to date until we were 16 and the guy had to come to our house and stay in open view of our parents which i had no problem with cause i was not wanting to get pregnant or whatever but my little brother is 13 and they are letting his stupid little girlfriend come around and see him ---he's 13! I asked my mom one day i said why is he getting to do that and we didn't and she said "Cause he can't get pregnant" so i guess that is why.

It's not right, they should be the same way with him that they were with us.

Anyhow my parents are having more trouble out of my brother towards girls than they did us girls towards boys..lol...Anyhow his little girlfriend is not allowed to come back around anymore because my mom caught her wacking my brother off IN THE LIVING ROOM ON THE COUCH and my mom only got up to go to the kitchen to get something to drink and she came back and that stupid girl was doing that....I don't think that was brave of her to do, it was stupid and she must dont have no sense. (She is 14, so she is going to be a real good sl_t starting early like that)

Just let your brothers get all these girls pregnant, set back and laugh while you get to live your life without a kid.

If i were you i would not get mad, it is for your own good but it is sexiest.

Answer 2

I agree. And I also know that for my kids, daughter OR son, they will not be having anyone spend the night of the opposite s*x with them, I don't care how old they are. If they're still under my roof, they will respect our rules accordingly.  The double-standard in society is despicable and the reason for so many broken homes and single mothers these days. And like you said, if we had the same "standards" for sons as we do daughters, we wouldn't have as many pregnant daughters. It's not true to say that the teenage boy has to deal with as much as the teenage girl when it comes to teenage pregnancy, but it is true to say that they SHOULD have to. Regardless, I hold teenage boys' parents just as accountable as I do the girls'.

Good observation on your part and I wish most parents would see it too and quit glorifying a young man for sexual conquests. It's pure stupidity.

Answer 3

Who says parents aren't just as protective of their sons?  We have one of each and we will treat it the same with each.  I'll be as equally protective of my son as I am my daughter in all aspects including s*x.

Answer 4

It's probably because daughters are much more likely to be overpowered by males and that's why parents are more protective.  It's got little to do with raging hormones.  Unfortunately, this isn't the "popular" response.  But, honestly, it's reality...

I do have a teenage son and I don't worry about him so much because I know he won't allow himself to be overpowered by anyone.  If he happens to get a girl pregnant, then he will step up to the plate and handle his business...

Answer 5

I ask myself the samee thing. thats how it is in my family. Talk to your parents about that, because if a guy gets a girl pregnant he also has to care for baby under state law.

Answer 6

The double standard makes no sense.  Boys and men are just as "S****y" if they view their partners as conquests or as objects for their own pleasure.  

It's time we stopped letting men have a free ride sexually at women's expense.

Answer 7

That's always bothered me as well. Part of it is the world's long history of double standards for boys and girls. Another factor is the fact that if someone does end up pregnant, it's going to be the girl, and while the guy should be held equally responsible, he rarely is.

Fortunately I was blessed with the parents I have, and don't have to worry about this. Whatever my dad's natural inclination on the subject might have been, now he's completely fair, and extremely sensitive to my need for equality.

Answer 8

When you have a boy you only have to worry about the one "thing"... when you have a girl, you have to worry every "thing" in the world.

Maybe its because your dad knows how teenage boys are and probably how he was, and he doesnt want you to be treated the way he and every other teenage boy, has treated teenage girls.

Answer 9

who gets stuck with the baby- hearing the baby cry at 3:00 AM haing to change all the dirty diapers?

The girls family, oh the guy will help...

Also how many times have you heard of a girl taking advantage of a boy it happens but...

Answer 10

Society looks down at young (fast/fresh) girls and look up to boys with a lot of girls. It is a cold world out here and most of the times girls/females are the ones getting kidnapped, rape, murder.,etc. With that happening it is best if our daughters are protected more than our sons. Parents should teach both genders respect for themselves and other. When it come to a boy you don't want to have him shelter and protective you want to prepare him for the real world and becoming a man. You don't want to shelter a girl either but you don't want her to be free to do whatever.

Answer 11

Interesting question! I think a lot of this has to do with the fact that if a girl gets pregnant, she has physical proof that will show it to the whole world, which can be an embarassment to the family. However, as for the guy that got her pregnant, he will look no different, and may not even know that he is a father. That's just ONE view that I haven't seen brought out yet.

Answer 12

I protective of both my boys and girls and yes i hold my hand up over protective of girls, prob cos i was a teenage boy once.

But hey you kids got your heads screwed on and prob more savvy than we where.

It took some time but i now stand back and treat my 15 year old daughter with the respect she deserve.

Answer 13

It's because guys have raging hormones, and there out there looking for a girl.  We have parts on our body that stands out and guys are looking.  The dad feels very violated if a guy is trying to look or talk to their so called little girls, because they know what boys are thinking because they been there.  It's part of human life.

Not like boys do.  Believe that.

Answer 14

BECAUSE DAUGHTERS WILL HAVE TO TAKE CARE OF THE BABIES

Answer 15

Because the daughters might get pregnant. They don't want to have to go through abortion, or they might have a huge burden for the rest of their lives. The boyfriend might not even have to take responsibility for it.

Answer 16

Because females are believed to be more vulnerable.  Females are victims of s*x crimes more often than males.  That's a fact.  That is how far the thought process goes for a parent when it comes to s*x and their children.

Answer 17

I think because parents assume that a guy will take advantage of their daughter or make her do something she doesn't want to really do.

Answer 18

because with a son we only have to worry about one p****r, with a girl we have to worry about every boys p****r.... it is hard to understand but we as parents just worry about our daughters

Answer 19

I agree with you 100%.  I have two boys and a girl, and I will be treating them all equally in this area.  I'd be just as horrified if one of my sons got a girl pregnant or got an STD than I would if my daughter ended up pregnant.

But there is definitely still that "double standard" out there.  Like now, the big rage is those purity parties - where a daughter vows to remain pure until marriage.  They go to these fancy dances with their fathers usually.  So what about teh sons?  Don't they deserve the same love and devotion?

I think the issue with some parents is because when your daughter is pregnant.... its very obvious and hard to hide, and they themselves have to deal with the responsibility.  With a son, noone has to know he got someone pregnant... and usually its the girls parents that take on the responsibility of the baby if needed.

But its not fair, I agree.