Why are people so critical?

Question

Okay so i asked a question about what type of fighting style i should use against this guy im fighting a while ago. I posted a video of me sparring so that people would know my size and weight and come up with a good descision. Then this guy insults my sparring and doesnt give actual constructive criticism. Honestly why dont people realize that sparring isnt fighting. I was asked by everyone to hold back on my strikes no haymakers so i focused on grappling which im very bad at. Since my strength was in my ability to strike i basically lost my advantage instead i had to convert to dinky taekwondo kicks instead of hard muai thai style. but thats my question why is it that when a person post videos on youtube everyone always compares that person to pros I mean common.

Answer 1

....because being dangerous makes people angry.... it's not the amount of injuries that occurs, it's the readiness for treatment, as long as you're keeping your "fight club" safe, I don't see a significant problem. It may be a little better to let mostly experienced martial artists in though, wailing on beginners doesn't accomplish much..... I'm going to assume that your "club" is for self improvement and learning, not brawling, right? Erm.... I would say that trying the other half of instructors would improve your skills, Taekwondo is mostly sport, did you try anywhere other than that and the MMA club? If not, consider looking around for something that isn't form heavy (boxing, most grappling sports, Jeet Kune Do, Sanshou/Sanda) if you're very serious about immediate results... I do hope that my answer isn't as critical as other ones...hmm.....

Answer 2

Only 1 thing will help you become a better fighter,and I dont care if its MMA,Boxing,or any Fighting Style,and thats Spar spar spar spar spar spar,learn from instructor and repeat it 10 times,then spar spar spar,get corrected with technique then spar SPAR SPAR SPAR SPAR SPAR. and this goes for ANY d**n FIGHTING STYLE. Only constant sparing will Get you ready for a Real fight situation. (As My MMA Instructor Says)

Answer 3

I may have went overboard in my response, however I did so for a purpose. Look you have formed a "fight club" with a bunch of 16 year old kids, none of which from what I gather have much if any formal training. I do not know if you are over 18 or not, however even if your not, a bunch of untrained people fgihting, even if it is just sparring, is a recipe for disaster.

When you posted the question, at no point until after I responded already was there any mention of you being asked to "hold back". I answered the question based on what I saw and the knowledge I have. To me it looked like two untrained people trying to imitate the UFC.

I am sorry if you took it the wrong way, but the whole point of me being as critical as I was, was to try and show you that in order to really become good, you have to actually train under a teacher, and that just the fact that you came on here to ask advice about how you should fight someone shows how inexperienced you ar, and that your "fight club" is probably heading for disaster, when somebody has to go to the hospital.

Anyway that's your problem and not mine, and you can deal with the consiquences of it. I also think that if you don't want honest opinions, do not ask questions on here, because not every body is going to agree with you, and tell you what you want to hear.

Anyway like I said when someone gets hurt severly, you are the one that will have to face the consiquences, not me, so have at it.  

Answer 4

Kevin R - I think you really need to sit down and take a look at what you're doing and what you're asking. You are creating an unsanctioned fight club in your garage. There are no medical professionals around to help somebody when they're injured. So That's a major issue, for you nobody else. If somebody gets injured in your garage they can sue you. It doesn't matter if you're buddies or not, when a person's health becomes the issue, sometimes friends go out the window. So that's something you should look into, as a very serious matter.

The next thing would be, you should really take time out to find a school that doesn't train for sport. They're out there, believe me, I'm a part of one. They may be hard to find, but that's the point.

It doesn't matter the fact that you beat up a 2md degree Black Belt in TKD. I've fought and skillfully won against many people who had higher rank as well. Rank isn't everything, because you have to be able to take what you learn in the dojo and apply it to the real world. This is not something that is done on a whim, because there are too many stressors involved when trying to protect yourself for real.

The reason people can be so critical... well there are many. Anyway, I understand that you are looking for honest opinions and advice, but the subject matter is a very delicate one believe it or not. Violence (yes it is violence) has always and will always be looked down upon in society. So, having young adults post videos on the internet making it easily accessable for impressionable children is going to garner more negativity than anything else. It doesn't matter what you are doing it for, that's just how the world will see it.

I can understand and agree with you having a "fightclub" to try and gain experience for the streets in defense situations (it's just like the dojo conceptually) but... you are without proper supervision, and preparations, and that doesn't look good.

Also asking what style you should use to beat somebody up is not a good question to ask, especially in a place/forum such as this. Granted there are a lot of people coming on here asking about kicking *** and so on, but you will see that they also get criticized.

So, my advice to you is. Take it easy, not everybody will feel the same as you. Some may react louder than others, but these are all opinions. Be cautious about what you do and why you do it. Learn that you don't need a big ego, and you don't need to intimidate with violence to succeed.

Answer 5

they are just jealous of the fact that they can't do it so ignore them and carry on with your sparring remember it is not up to them what you do it is up to you and i would say do the thing that you are best at.