Why are people so mean ?

Question

ok ready? Im in school by the way a respecting junior and people just give you dirty looks and c**p it's annoying. Everyone try's to be better than someone else. Ok look everyone ignores me for no reason im just what you may call normal i talk with respect and treat anybody how i would like to be treated. Do you really have to be a bad *** to know people like wtf.

Answer 1

high school sucks and everything gets better after

Answer 2

im the same way you are. it seams like we have to be like everyone else(mean) to fit in, it sucks. i just be myself and i have a good group of friends and thats all that matters.

Answer 3

most people are idiots

Answer 4

It's high school.. such immature jealous sh*t goes on there.. it's crazy! I am also a very respectful person, I ALWAYS treat others the way I wish to be treated.. And I was/am a very pretty/cute girl in High School. But for some reason I was not popular.. I didn't want to be, (which had something to do w/ it) but it would bother me that I would always be so kind and thoughtful of others and I would hear some of the nastiest lies about me.. I figure it had a lot to do w/ jealousy. I was skinny, so apparently I am anorexic, I had boyfriends (not a lot) so that meant I was a ****.... Especially in high school.. everyone is so petty, it's crazy! All I know is how I was raised and it was not to be like that.  

Answer 5

Don't worry as you get older people learn to hide that.

Answer 6

Misery loves company!! No you don't have to act like they do! Nor should you! With a good attitude you will help make the world a better place.  

Answer 7

people are mean. just get a hobby. kiss your mom.

Pray that it ends. It never did for me.

Answer 8

dude i totally know how you feel, i am a junior too. people just annoying, so i either say something to them if they give me a dirty look and i give them one back, thats all you can do....

Answer 9

PRIDE.

unnecessary pride.  people tend to be mean so they put others down.  In turn they will feel better about themselves.  They need to keep people down to keep their own ego up.

It's just another way of showing that they are insecure of themselves.

Answer 10

Well to h**l with the people who are rude to you. I'm sure not EVERYONE is like that. And if they are, just ignore them.  

Answer 11

I can relate. I am also a junior in High School and kids are just very immature. The upperclassmen are ok, I actually think they are awesome as a whole. The Sophomores are a pain in the *** and still act like they are freshmen. They act like they dominate the school but really they don't. Freshies I think are quiet o.0. But yeah I know what you mean. Even people my own age are very immature and that's how life is. People just act like that to make them feel better about themselves. (They lack a conscience). I sometimes kind of feel weird thinking about Senior year and not having any upperclassmen. Freshmen year I guess could be the best year.

But yeah try to ignore them, two more years your out of the place and well those who are mean and don't give a c**p about anything are going to be still there getting held back.  

Answer 12

Try going to a smaller high school, or do home school for high school.  

Answer 13

Just be yourself and ignore the other people.  You don't want to associate yourself with those people. They are poisonous. Negativity rubs off onto other people and you don't want that kind of vibe near you. Stick around with those that are a positive influence in your life.

Even after high school though, its going to be like that. There's going to be the popular people at the office. It's like that where ever you go. You just have to learn to just do what you need to do to make your life enjoyable. Still be respectful b/c it shows everyone that you are a bigger person for not lowering your standards to those.

My motto is quality over quantity. I rather have a few really good close and trustworthy friends then have tons of acquaintances.

Answer 14

yeah people hate the good guys and good girls. For some reason people just seem to want to recreate bad things in their life. Don't worry about it. You will have the real nice people come to you if you are respectful. Hang in their my friend, high school flys by!

Answer 15

I'm just getting into high shcoool.

Tomorrow I'm offically a freshman.

But I know, its stupid.

I am normal, I am nice to everyone. And I have a lot of different friends.

Today at orientaion allll the populars sat at a table and laughed and its annoying because they think they are better than everyone else.

And it is so stupiidd

Answer 16

No sweetie...you are just looking at the wrong people.

There are people out there that do care about people themselves.  School is such a difficult period to deal with.  Adults think it is easy and not stressful but they don't know how it is now.

Some things never change though.  People are scared and lash out and treat people differently before they are disrespected first.  They don't give others time to get to know them and see how they are first.

It will pass.  This is the beginning of the school year...everyone is opting for their "place' right now and don't see that they are passing up good friends in the process.

Just be yourself.  Do not let anyone change you.  Do not let their behavior make you be like them.  My favorite saying is...dont argue wth idiots...they will drag you down to their level and beat you up with experience.  

Do what you do you best....be kind and respectful and  treat everyone decently because that is who you are.  You aren't like them so don't try to be....you will fail and be miserable about it.

Things will level out soon...I promise.   They are immature ...they will grow up ....give them time.  Find a group of people who aren't in the groups you are looking at.  Even if they are the nerds.  They will be more of true friends than the ones that are mean and annoying.

Answer 17

u said it "Everyone try's to be better than someone else"

bad asses always wanna prove they r something cz they have got issues !

it happened to me

just go with the flow n ignore bad ones , they won't change ur life :|

Answer 18

Alright.

First of all, I have to say I've been there.

So, I know exactly how you feel.

People can suck sometimes.

But, don't worry It'll get better.

I swear.

Well, if it makes you feel better I'd be nice :)

Uhm, as far as tips, Try to be nice to everyone you meet.

It worked for me.

And when someone asks about you make sure you THINK before you speak. I'm not saying you say stupid things, but just think.

And last tip, DON'T be shy.

And if people still don't like you...F*CK them.

Alright?

Email me if you want.

Answer 19

welcome to the real world, we all have to deal with it so suck it up and go on with your life.

Answer 20

probably people are mean because you are emphasizing too much on being accepted and it might come off as annoying or "trying to hard" . High School and Jr. High are tough years. Don't focus on the negative comments of people. Rather be yourself and find friends you have things in common with. good luck and i'm sure you'll find it easier. those who are bad*** are just as insecure and frightened as you might be. Trust me, they are. Best Luck!

Answer 21

Clance,

Just be yourself....no one can fault you for that.  Many of these people are trying to hold themselves higher than everyone else, whereas, your actions and good manners actually make you look better in the long run.  

Keep showing respect, even when others don't deserve it and you will gain their respect by doing so.

Answer 22

people think it is funny.

Answer 23

Some of them must think they can get more out of the system by being mean.  For example, they think if they make you bad in a fake kind of way by giving you dirty looks and critical remarks, they can make themselves good.  They must feel they have to brag in order to let others know what they are getting for themselves through misbehaviour and making the feel bad about themselves.  I assume they think that in carrying on this way, they will continue to get more, or at least will feel like they are getting more.  Some day their behaviour hopefully will catch up with them and they will get what they deserve.  I do not think they are really getting more of anything that is real and valuable by carrying on in this way.

These people remind me of the characters in the film 'Mean Girls'.  Their tactics begin to backfire onto them in the end.

Don't let them ruin your high school year.  You have quite a lot of things to concern yourself with, like your school work.  Try to find a more interesting reference group and develop some interests and pastimes.  Have a good time.  If you don't pay attention to them for long enough, they may start to feel ignored themselves.