Why are people so rude and mean?!?!?

Question

Today was my first day of school, I woke up having high expectations for my third high school year :) . During 4th period study hall, a group of black kids were sitting next to me. Within 5 minutes, they started to talk about me and acting extremely ignorant and insensere. Of course, I ignored it and tried to study my work. This made me very upset, so I tried to forget it. Then comes 6th period lunch. I get in line, and here comes an entire new group of black kids. They start talking about how skinny I am and cracking jokes about my hair. I was extremely upset now. When it is time to leave, I get on the bus, and there is a big group of black kids all around me and start crackin jokes again!!! Now, I am trying to figure out why do people act like this?? I don't know who would be so mean to come up to someone and giving them a lower self esteem than they already have. Honestly, I don't want to go through another day with this c**p. I don't like having my feelings hurt and I am not going go change for THEM!

What is going on, and why can't we all just get along?

Answer 1

First off dear, by you making a point in saying the kids were "black" everytime makes me wonder if you are a little raciest. If they were white kids would you have made it a point to say that?

Secondly, I feel for you, this is a high school thing that happends to thousands of kids everyday. It's the growing pains of high school.  you have a few options here:

1)  You can ignor it and don't bother getting upset about it because it's not worth your time.

2)  Try to be cleaver and funny and try to join them. . . "Yeah, I know I hate this shirt (or whatever) too, but my mom bought it for me so I thought I would wear it to make her happy."

3)   Be the better person and try to talk to them by saying some jokes or by making fun of yourself to them. That why it'll take all the fun away from them doing it to you.

I would HIGHLY recomment option 3.  Kids make fun of other kids because they get a rise out of it. If you take that fun away from them, they'll will stop it and find someone else to pick on.

Whatever you decide to do, remember that you have 2 more years to go . . . after that, you'll never have to see these people again - don't let them ruin your high school years!  

Answer 2

I grew up in Detroit and there is only 2 things you can do. 1) ignore it or 2) go to war. I chose 2, bad choice. Stick with one but if they get violent then go to option 2

Answer 3

I know what you mean I get teased a lot in school my-self and I ignore them to!

my teacher told me that the reason why people tease other people because they might have been teased them self before! so they tease other people to make them self look good and big!

but I know what you going through because I get teased so much in school that sometimes I just want to cry and hide but I learn to ignore them and get on with my life!

Answer 4

Stand up for yourself, or they will keep doing it because they think your weak and a easy target. People will talk **** and try to put you down for the rest of your life, but you just have to learn to ignore it and understand that their ignorant and have nothing else better do. They could be jealous of you or find you interesting. (believe me i know because half of the people i know thought i was a total snob,dork etc but later found out i was the total opposite and ended up wanting to get to know me.) Just stay strong and don't let it get to you.

Answer 5

you are going to be successful in life and their gonna end up in jail

Answer 6

If I were you I'd ask them that what the h**l they want with you. I would suggest you stand up to them like a man and tell them that you are not going to be putting up with this c**p anymore.Since they are black I guess there is plenty of stuff that you can throw back at them.

Answer 7

CUZ THERE HORNY

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Answer 8

no matter who you are, sometimes there'll be people who want to ruin your day. i know that sounds negative, but all you can do is ignore them and try to get back at them by being a better, nicer person than them.

i know how hard it is, but what goes around comes around, so if you're continually nice to people, you'll find people in life who are nice to you too =]

Answer 9

It's called teasing.  They found something that bothers you, so they're going to rag on it until they get a rise out of you.  You have 2 options:

1.  laugh it off, joke back with them and try to be friendly

2.  ignore it

Answer 10

Take it out on the next black that comes your way. SERIOUSLY. Blacks are blacks everywhere

Answer 11

Unfortunately, this is a tough world and a lot of ppl just can't seem to get along with others..AS for you..as hard as it is, just ignore it..the reason ppl often pick on you is because they are the ones who really feel insecure...school just began and I think this will die over and you will have a fantastic year. REmember, the best thing that you can do for yourself is ignore this bullshit, study hard and get somewhere and do something worthwhile with YOUR life...then you'll be the one with the last laugh

also, take it from my own personal experience..10 yrs from now at ur high school reunion, you might be the hottest one there while those that made fun of you just look like a joke! good luck!

Answer 12

Hey, aren't you that kid who is obsessed with urine? Yeah, I stalked your profile... Go watch a golden showers porno. You'll feel better

Answer 13

I'm black and i don't act like that towards any one...some people just don't have any thing to do with there self. don't let it bother you. i know it's hard to ignore htem but try harder

Answer 14

you gotta start stickin up for yourself. dont just take it if u dont like it.

Answer 15

Because people are cruel. That's why.

Answer 16

People have there own little groups and you cannot change that.

Answer 17

Aww  . try to ignore them like you did.. tell the teachers its going on and tell your parents.. dont let them mess up your self esteem hun..people arent worth it.. Usually people who do this are the ones with low self esteem so they pick on innocent people to feel better.

Answer 18

They aren't any better than you.  So don't give them the authority to control your feelings.  Don't let them lower your self esteem.  Get in touch with yourself and know who and what you are.  Stand proud.

People can be mean and cruel.  Especially if there's a group of them.  And the target is always the one who stands out from the crowd.  When they all pick on some one they start to bond more with each other.  Odds are if you ran across these people one at a time they probably would be friendly.

Here's something you can try.  First; The worst thing you can do is let them know it bothers you.  When they crack jokes about how skinny you are say something like,"Hey!  It isn't easy keeping my weight down."  Or, "I just keep the best and discard the rest."  Come up with some lines like that.  And when they talk about your hair make a joke out of it.  Tell them something like, "Your hair would like this too if your barber was a one armed alcoholic."  Just join in with them.  Eventually they will ease up on you.

Another thing you can try is if you come across a situation where you are with just one of those kids strike up a conversation with him.  Get to know him and let him get to know you.  Do this with as many of them as you can.

You show strength and character when you say you're not going to change for them.  Don't let them hurt your feelings.  The things they say are just words.    

Look, I know it isn't easy.  But you have to rise above it.  You can do it.  And I think you know you can do it too.  O.K.?  

I wish you the best of luck.

Answer 19

dont worry its gonna blow over soon  

Answer 20

You can't change people.  You can only change how you react to it.  Ignore it.  They want attention and not giving them any will make them move on to someone who does.  I don't know why teenagers (and even some adults) are like this but it probably has a lot to do with their own insecurities.  Some people feel good by making other people feel bad.  Don't give them the satisfaction.  

It's going to get easier.  You'll see.  

Answer 21

poor upbringing..........it stinks..

Answer 22

Eh, you have to learn to live with morons. Sounds like you stand out being not black? I wouldn't worry. If you can, laugh with them. In the end, does it really matter if they think you look funny?  

Answer 23

Um did you say anything racist at all?

Answer 24

Don't worry about it. Some people are just ignorant. Forget them because they will get nowhere in life.