Why are people so rude to me for being shallow?

Question

Yes I'm extremely vain, self centred, some may say stuck up, but it's just the way I am. When I say I don't talk to guys unless they are really fit, wear designer clothes, have money and a nice car all I get is a torrent of abuse, bltch, w***e, slapper, gold-digging sIut had it all, just for being picky. I don't sleep around at all, in fact quite the opposite, and certainly don't need money. I don't give the 'it's what's on the inside that counts' do-gooders a hard time for having lower standards than me, so why be so rude?

Answer 1

People think that  you're looking down on them & they feel hurt & angry at that.

Everyone wants to feel good about themselves. Everyone wants to feel special. Everyone wants to feel worthwhile. By being vain & believing that you're superior to them you are making them feel substandard and worthless. That's a nasty thing to have to feel, so they hit back.

Your honesty is wonderfully refreshing!!

EDIT:

Why all the thumbs down? The question asked for an honest answer. I see both sides of the situation. I understand why Aimee feels like this AND I understand what it must feel like to be another person in her presence. That allows me to give her the answer she's asking for.

Answer 2

Probably because you're vain, self-centered and stuck up.  Only hot rich guys are worthy of your pearls of wisdom.  Sounds like a torrent of abuse is exactly what you deserve.

Back in the 50s, Annette on the Mickey Mouse Club sang a song that said "Beauty is as beauty does..."  Try being nice to everyone, and they'll probably be nice to you in return.

Answer 3

My guess is people are rude to you because you deserve it. And the reason why is explained in your question. However, you forgot to add that you are extremely immature.

Answer 4

Well at least you're honest about it.

But tbh you're a bit rude not going out with someone because they don't wear designer clothes, you're low.  Sort it out, theres more to life than clothes and cars.

Answer 5

That's fine if you have nothing to apologize for....but then neither do the people who are rude to you

Answer 6

I suppose because you are an uppity worthless tease.

Answer 7

Usually people like yourself have deep emotional issues that they cover by needing to have a particular thing or going for a particular look. Insecurity, low self esteem...the list can go on.

In your case it's I'd venture to say insecurity otherwise you wouldn't be here looking for vindication for your behaviors.

Answer 8

Because you need to grow up and get over yourself.  

You're not "picky".  You're spoilt and self-centered.  I don't give the "at least you're honest" c**p credit at all.  You need to relearn your behavior.  Obviously, you're getting feedback that bothers you.

See a therapist.  NOW.

And BTW...there's no such thing as "it's what's inside that counts do-gooders".  Those are called *normal adults*.  Get it?  Got it.  Good.

Answer 9

im sorry it happens to be rude towards people like you, beacuse their behaviour is often offencise but you are often to self centred to noticed that the rudness is just  the consequence of something you may have said before, people are hardly rude for free and you seam to offer a lot of insiration...

Answer 10

there obv jelous.

just ignore it,

only reason y people call others names and that is cuz they want what u have or there jelous.

Answer 11

Because deisgner clothes and money ect do not make up a person.

Yes you need attraction in order to like a guy but give people a chance at least.

You are limiting the amount of wonderfull people in your life- and trust me there is not alot of them.

Answer 12

its up to you what standards you aim for but if you perhaps tried being pleasant and friendly to others,even those you consider"beneath"you,the name calling would disappear,designer clothes and fancy cars are not everything,all that stuff means jack ****!!looks fade,money can go wrong and what will you be left with if this happens?seriously a lot of guys find that kind of attitude a turn off too,being picky in relationships is ok,none of us wants to carry dead weight,but being pleasant can open a whole lot of doors and make a person liked,not seen as shallow and superficial

Answer 13

they are rude because of your sway the way how you carry yourself and your actions maybe you should start being more humble and then people wont be as rude but if they know you then you just have to change

Answer 14

I like your attitude myself. But good looks to me mean nothing. Some people are so into themselves they can not relate to the real world. Which is sad.

Answer 15

Hello,,I would love to get dressed up to please you,,tell you everything you want to hear,,get you so freaking drunk you'll forget my name and the video on you-tube.

Answer 16

You used the words  "lower standards". You are comparing how someone looks & what they have as a "high standard". You are well short of the mark.

Answer 17

I think if you re-read your question you will come up with the answer without any help from the Yahoo Community.I think if you start to think of others and have an empathetic understanding you will begin to realise what is important in life. You say your are extremely vain and self centred but that is just the way you are? Now if you met someone whom you realised was extremely vain and self centred would you not be rude to them???

Answer 18

im with you on some stuff. im picky too but only when it comes to if they are fit or not and they have to have good teeth. some of the stuff you said is just crazy tho. i mean i bet you live with your parents and they spoil you so you dont know what its like to live on your own. you cant always buy designer clothes especially when you have to make that car payment on that awesome car while paying for rent and food. to top it off girls themselves are expensive to go along with those other payments. im not trying to be rude but i am trying to get you to rethink your standards.

Answer 19

Probably because you present yourself as rude. You're honest, I give you that, but it's sad because you're going to live life as a very lonely person. Take away the clothes, car & money......what defines you as person... Nothing! I hope you change your thinking because Karma is a bigger b*tch than you.

Answer 20

Ok so you're being honest!! But people tend not to like stuck up people because your rude yourself!!!

Answer 21

i give you credit ..at least youre honest!!

Answer 22

Because you're a superficial, vain, stuck up, shallow gold-digger, self-explanatory.

Answer 23

Well, what if ppl didnt talk to you because you didnt fit into their high class of standards?....that would be rude right?  ok then, so thats why ppl are being rude to you.

Answer 24

Wow, you're dense.  Um, if someone acted self-centered and stuck up to you, do you think you would want to be nice to them?

Answer 25

Well Thanks for being honest. thats good

But that is rude, Yes! I would be mean to you also, you only talk to ppl who wear designer clothes. Thats messed up.

So you should never get mad when someone treat you bad, or look down on you. right?

You should give everybody respect, if you dont wanna go out with them, then DON'T! but please give them respect.

Answer 26

You could...oh, I don't know.....shut your stupid mouth about all of your "standards of excellence."  No one gives a d**n about who you are on the inside when nothing but c**p spills out of your mouth every time you open it.

You deserve everything you are getting---maybe it's time for you to wake up.

Answer 27

There are millions of people who have had to do everything in their lives for themselves, and none of the compare to you. I would think for someone who knows what it like to go without would not judge people based on the presentation. You really need to get over yourself. The person I see described is a tacky gold-digging ***** with low-self esteem.

Answer 28

Ha. You sound so ignorant. You'll never snag a wealthy accomplished man because you're too stupid to realize, the truly weathly NEVER FLAUNT their wealth. Only the player posers. You're going to end up with some K-fed deadbeat who rents his Plasma from Rent-a-Sucker and is up to his tuckhole in debt which you will inherit when you marry him.

They're rude because you're rude. Make sense?