Why are so many men reactive instead of objective?

Question

And if you are REACTING to that question instead of thinking about it objectively, you have proven my point. I am soooo pleased to read posts and answers by objective, thinking men (thank you!) because there are so few of them in comparison to the amount of women that post/answer in this way. Why are there so many men that are so emotional (yes reacting with rage/snotty replies/mean snipes qualifies as emotional)? And I'm referring to men that I know personally. A person can't say two words without them getting defensive and puffing up, it's so tiresome.

Answer 1

Perhaps it would help, if you were more objective and did not slander the entire gender based on your personal opinion (which is the opposite of being objective).

Answer 2

Naturally men have the need to fix something immediately. It does not necessarily mean they are all snotty. Maybe you are hanging around the wrong crowd. My brothers have always been considerate of others, male or female. No need for confrontation anyway. Is that what you are doing?

Answer 3

Simple Answer: Ego.

The MALE element has been brought up and its superior ego nurtured (yes, by mothers) so the male child grows up feeling STRONG, showing false LEADERSHIP and taking COMMAND of every little thing so he can lead the defenseless, weaker s*x (female) and be the Don Quixote fighting windmills. LOL

Show a child LOVE and they grow up being compassionate and listening to reason. Show that child HATE and they grow up being abusive, irrational and very subjective.

Show a child UNDERSTANDING and concern for others feelings and it grows up to show OBJECTIVE thinking and behavior based on the circumstances of the moment. Otherwise, it grows up thinking and feeling quite correct that its "my way or the highway" attitude towards ANYONE not just females.

The way to disspell DEFENSIVE behavior is with a simple question or comment: "Prove it" or "O.K. big boy/girl show me". Usually these huffy puffy attitudes disappear when put to the task of proving their superiority or correctness.

By the way, I have used it on FEMALES who are so inclined to believe that all of us MALES don't know what we're doing or talking about. Works BOTH ways, you know. Many females are just as offensive so don't point the finger. Look around. I bet you have one or two girl friends who exhibit the same attitude you cite in your question. Huh?

Answer 4

Well by the looks of your question it pretty much looks like all your looking for is a reaction to renforce your negative stereotype,but i think men are more reactive then women is Pride and Ego,Simple as that

Answer 5

I don't believe that reactive behavior is limited to men, I believe that many men and women have this behavior. the difference is in the exhibition of it.

Culturally speaking, men are taught to be aggressive, and speak out whereas women are taught to be more passive and introspective. Although there have been changes over the last century in the roles and behavior for women, this form of cultural training still exists. Evidence of this has been studied in mixed gender classroom situations, where girls will be less inclined to openly answer questions than boys.

I believe that it is part of the human condition to equate our personal and cultural beliefs as being truth, (regardless of their context). Therefore challanges to our "truth" is to react and defend rather than to contemplatively consider the opposing view and the objectively respond to it.

Clear examples of this writ large are issues such as the heliocentric view of the solar system/universe rather than the geocentric view. in the 16th century

One can compare the current and ongoing debate over evolution.

In addition, we tend to reward to aggressive male archtype. The Football Player, The Hawkish politician, the He-man movie star etc are rewarded in our society. whereas the thinker, artist, philosopher and scientist are often portrayed as being weak, out of touch, elitist, or even subversive.

Women are every bit as capable of being reactive as men, most simply choose (or are trained) to not portray it. Ann Coulter is a good example of a reactive female personality.

Answer 6

It may partly be blamed; on up-bringing, stress(environment)stereotyping and the male ego.

some times men feel that they are always or most of the time wright or the environment where they have grown to see others behave the same way and none thing is done about it or others don't see anything wrong with it.

I have also realized that, men hate to be questioned by women because of stereotyping they believe women don't understand them even if they try...

it has also been noted that women react better to stress(emotionally) than men do, so it could be one of the possibilities.

I have also noticed that, very few men seek to be understood or to understand the other person because they feel this will lower their self esteem. A man must be at the top "know it all" and therefore, offer and not receive.

Thanks for asking

Answer 7

I think American society teaches men that their role is to be problem solvers - that is, to react promptly to a real or perceived problem.  Unfortunately, for a number of (us) males, that leads to a "Ready! Fire! Aim!" response.  (Tho there are still a few of us in the "Ready! Aim! Aim! Aim! ..." camp.)

I hope you find this relevant to your question.  I'd usually pair reactive - proactive OR objective - subjective.

Answer 8

basically, it boils down to two words: testosterone and pride. Men feel that they need to defend themselves even if they are not being attacked. It's in their nature.